Women/Girls and drink

[Lonnie]

I see so many posts on here, mainly from Women/Girls, who say they are going out to get drunk, or they've been out and got drunk.

I'm sorry, but WHY?, I think that if you need to get drunk to enjoy yourself, there's something seriously wrong.

[havinmysay]

having a ''drink'' is just a way of relaxing at the weekend or a hard days work i suppose these days its a way of socialising and havin a laugh and we all know its alot more fun after a drink or two.
Anyway im sure men drink as much as us ladies!!!
xx

[Eve]

I don't go out to get drunk and don't drink very often at all.

Don't drink on my own and rarely at home unless have company and have a glass of wine or something.

I will drink if I want to on a night out or have a glass of wine (or more likely a wine wine with lemondade) with dinner if i fancy it.

I can have a perfectly good night out without a drop of alcohol.

[ummmm]

I love getting p*ssed

[bobtheturkey]

im male and i dont drink because i dont like the taste of it wheras a lot of people drink because others drink and end up falling face first in their own vomit which to me isn't a night out but each to their own i just like my liver

[joko]

oh my god!

more double standards!

are you suggesting that women shouldn't drink, as its not 'ladylike' , and men can do what they want?


perhaps you should go out and have a drink once in a while - might help you loosen up bit.

(oh and by the way - did if ever occur to you that perhaps some people in the world do have things seriously wrong with their lives? you say it as though you are offended that other people have problems!)

why not concentrate on sorting your own life out instead of coming on here, full of self righteous indignance because other people want to enjoy themselves?

[Katie~77]

I like to go out for a drink with the girlies, but I hate being drunk. I think it's a control thing!!!x

[whiskeysheri]

I didn't drink for about four years as I never used to go out. I'm recently single, so now drink because I'm out- that's my excuse for being such a lightweight, anyway! :o))

I never drink when I'm at home (unless I have a friend over) or alone. I think I'll be giving the white wine a miss next time though...

[babydust]

god you are a right boring fart a right misery guts.

we can do what we like now get back to your pipe

[Lonnie]

havinmysay, I agree that having a drink is one way to relax, and certainly, it can help with the socialising, I have nothing aginst that type of drinking at all.

jenna, a good answer, again, I have nothing aginst the occasional lapse, but some of the posts give the impression that its a constant, I may be old fashioned, but if thats the case, I really don't understand why, especially as you ladies are so vunerable when incapacited.

ummmm, </b?Why?.

joko, Where do you get your double standards, There is, I believe, a physical difference between men and women, I don't recall that many men getting raped after getting drunk.
You've read into my post things that weren't even implied, but as you've put it down, first, no men can't. and shouldn't do what they like, no-one should, but women <b.are more vunerable than men, thats indisputable.
Lets see, me going out for a drink, I spent ten years in the Armed Forces, 1966/76, so I think I know a little bit about drinking, Fouteen pints a session was nothing, now, probably two would put me under the table, I have responsibilities which curtail my drinking, and I take them seriously.
I also appreciate what you say about some people having problems, and I unreservedly apologise if i've upset anyone with a drink related problem, that was not my intention,

Was my post offensive?, I didn't think so, but then again?????

[Gef]

Lonnie, joko never mentioned rape so why did you bring it up.

I look here regularly but don't recall lots of posts from women goin out to get drunk.

Perhaps you can ask a sensible question.

[daisy48]

Lonnie, Your post was'nt in the least offensive and sensible. I think you made a very valid point about the safety of young drunken young women. I grew up in the 60's and I used to binge drink with my friend's on the weekend. How we did'nt get raped I dont know as we all used be legless and therefore helpless. It's only when we look back we realise the danger we were in and it's worse these days. daisy.

[Roughquest]

I like to have a drink, I also like to get 'merry' because I enjoy it - i think it is a question of limits at the end of the day - not just applied to alcohol but anything in general - but I know my limit where alcohol is concerned, I know the point when I have had enough and its not when i fall over either lol! This applies to both men and women. Some people may not know what their own limit is when they have had enough. People drink alcohol for many reasons, to some its an addiction, a stimulant, a release.

[Lonnie]

gef, answers like yours aren't thought through, and it might behove you to read my post properly, and understand it, before you fall off your horse.
True, joko never mentioned rape, and I never said that men can do what they want, and I also never said that women shouldn't drink, which she has in her post.
What I did, was to point out the very real danger of rape to drunken women, it happens.

daisy48, Thankyou for understanding, the vitriol in a couple of posts quite took me back, anyone whose seen my posts, should realise that I actually try to word them so I don't upset anyone, still, I suppose it had to happen sometime.

[ummmm]

Why Lonnie....Because I have good fun. I don't puke and I know when to stop. I have never fallen over drunk and always remember what I have said and done. Although to be honest it may take a few hours.

I never go home on my own

And I don't find this post in the least bit offensive

[Lonnie]

Thanks ummmm, and thanks for the explanation, and, as you say, you know when to stop, thats the mark of someone in control.

[joko]

lonnie- your post was nothing to do with your apparent sudden concern for womens safety!!!
- it was about you thinking that women shouldn't get drunk and if they do there is something seriously wrong with their lives!!

- you can back track all you like but it is there in black and white - we can all see it clearly !!!

i get the 'double standards' idea from the title of your post and the mention of many girls getting drunk in your post - and the fact that men are not mentioned at all.

lost of men go out and get drunk to enjoy themselves too - but i guess theres nothing wrong with that, eh?

your post was condescending and sexist and you are now trying to change your tone.
I don't believe anyone reading this would have got a sense of your concern from the words of your original post!!

if you were concerned about the safety of women who drink why not say that in your post?
why write a stuffy, old fashioned moan about how women needing to drink have issues?

i did not mention drink related issues - i mentioned problems in general that some people feel like having a drink to help them cope with - your tone suggested that you were offended that anyone could possibly have any problems in their lives that they would drink to forget.

yes, anyone who drinks a lot to forget their problems does have something seriously wrong with them - but thats for them to deal with and doesn't require a supercillious sneer from you.

[ummmm]

joko....I understand where Lonnie is coming from...us girls do mention alcohol a lot

http://www.theanswerbank.co.uk/Body-and-Soul/Q uestion327373.html

There are many threads like that....

[Lonnie]

joko, true, I never mentioned safety in the original post, but I never mentioned a few of the things you assumed I meant, but surely, safety is the underlying prime concern.

Thanks everyone for your replies, and once again, I apologise for any offence caused.

[unruliejulie]

I love a drink Lonnie, i like a certain amount of self control though and always know when to stop. I like the confidence a few drinks give me. I can see your point but i dont think it is just based towards women these days. We have a binge drinking culture amongst young people which is pretty scary. I think it is something most young people go out and do though. All part of growing up!
I do not have to have a drink to enjoy myself, i can do that perfectly well without one, but i do enjoy a drink. I cant see a problem with it unless it takes over your life and you continually make a fool of yourself or put yourself in danger because you are less inhibited.
I think the way you worded your post made it sound a bit like its ok for men, but not women although i dont think thats quite what you meant, maybe you should have included fellas in it too!

[happygam]

Where do you start....I am fed up of hearing in the press about how women/girls drink and how we binge drink...I am 32 and started going out when I was 17...I never came home to my parents absolutely plastered...wouldn't dare..I go out now with friends - oh yes, a 32 year old married woman, going out, two fridays of the month - I have a few drinks and a ruddy good boogy...because I like a laugh...I'm only on this earth the once...I work hard for it and that is my way of chilling, relaxing and having a whale of a time!! I know my limit and when I have had enough, cos I am in control...in my 15 years of going out, I have never fell into my own "vomit"!! So Lonnie, you have actually gone out and got wasted on yer 14 pints...isn't that what people are doing now...the exact same as you - so whats your problem...basically, us women shouldn't drink....well, I will be...bottoms up!!