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Barmaid | 22:45 Fri 15th Mar 2024 | ChatterBank
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I have been helping someone online with some ancestry dna.  She was trying to find her partner's father and her son's grandfather.  I've done all the research (and it is pretty well backed up) and I have narrowed down the likely father to two individuals (brothers).  Unfortunately, both of these individuals were married at the time and still are.

I cannot just blank her.  On the one hand, her partner and child would like to know who their father/grandfather is, on the other hand, it could destroy the marriage/family of the father if a previously unknown child appears!  I have asked that no approach is made for now, since apart from anything a further DNA test is needed to ascertain which of the two is the father and I am in touch  with a son of one of them.  I have to consider how to deal with that one too!

Any ideas?  Apart from faking my own death?

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Thanks all.  I've stepped away.  

Good decision - I wouldn't want breaking a marriage on my conscience.

lol, this made me smile, i hope you are well xx

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