Sex Drive

[Curious79]

I am a 25 year old women and I seem to have absolutely no sex drive at the moment. I am on the pill and have been since about the age of 15 and I don't know if this maybe has something to do with it. I live with my boyfriend and we have been together for about 18 months. I love him and find him very attractive but we are currently having sex once a week if that. I would rather just have a cuddle and then roll over and go to sleep. What can I do to improve my sex drive. Any ideas?? Am I normal because I feel like a freak at the moment, I shouldn't be like this at my age surely. Please help :o)

[Doolallygirl]

My friend has never had any! She's 21 now and doesn't even LIKE sex. You aren't a freak. I can't put an explanation as to why it has just started but maybe a trip to your nurse and a chat might help you to feel a bit more reassured. I doubt it is the pill if you have been using the same one since you were 15 but maybe a change in pill would have this effect.

[lisabell]

I read somewhere the other day that eating things like pumpkin seeds can boost your sex drive.

[nedger]

You're not a freak. I really feel for you. This has happened to me on a few occasions for a few different reasons. Try changing your pill - some brands do sometimes affect sex drive, though doctors can be unsympathetic. Try working less hard and having more fun. Living together can be boring and stressful at the same time. Be kind to yourself - unless you feel attractive and confident and relaxed (surprise!) you probably won't be up for it much. If all else fails, you may have to change your boyfriend. Heartless as that sounds, I spent a long time convinced there was something wrong with me when really there was something wrong with the relationship. Good in many ways, but missing the spark. This might not be the case with you. Try everything else first. Best of luck.

[christie]

you are so normal me and my friends talk about this all the time some friends have it once a month which they think is fine me and my boyfreind have it once a week ,he,d like it more but were not machines ,and my boyfriend understands and excepts that,explain to your boyfreind that you love him to peices but your not always randy other wise buy some toys and experiment we get bored of the same routine so try something different oils massage dressing up etc. but whatever you do,dont think your not normal.

[tracymort]

A bit of diy can boost your libido. maybe invest in some "toys", it might help. i find the more i have it the more i want it.

[Curious79]

We actually did it last night and it was the best. It is strange because whenever we do it, it is always really good and I think to myself, we should do this more often but then I just don't feel like it the next day / night whatever. I am glad that other people feel the same. You always worry and look at other couples and think they are always at it but maybe they think the same about me??