When Is A Child Too Big To Pick Up, Cuddle And Carry?

[nellypope]

Yesterday I went to collect my 4 year old from nursery. In our family we are big on shows of affection, cuddles and kisses goodbye and hello. As I was helping my daughter on with her coat (four year olds, so easily distracted) she was showing me her picture of a fish and telling me all about her afternoon etc, I noticed a woman watching me. The nursery assistants are wonderful at my child's nursery, but recently I noticed other women there, they look like either health visitors or social services (but maybe they are just new members of staff without a uniform) I have no idea, but one of these ladies was watching me quite intently, then my daughter says "can I have a pick up cuddle and a carry" to which I am more than happy to give. This lady comes over and says "don't you think she's a bit big for that?"

Now I don't care how old my daughters are, if they want a cuddle even a bit of a carry they're going to get one. Now perhaps this woman didn't intend for her comments to be interpreted as they were. But it left me with a sour taste.

[redman41]

Tell her to f*ck off and mind her own business !
What on earth is this country coming to

[mazie]

My Daughter's 32 and I still hug and cuddle her. Just ignore the comment nelly. If she says anything like it again just tell her "you're never too old for a cuddle"

[Sqad]

Quite easy nelly......

\\\\ "don't you think she's a bit big for that?" \\\

The simple answer that you should have given was ......"No!"

[mazie]

Redman put it better ;o)

[Sqad]

LOL....redman's answer wasn't there when i posted, but excellent post by my mate......LOL

[sherrardk]

I'd speak to the nursery, you shouldn't be mads to feel like that.

[ummmm]

What did you reply?

[Psybbo]

What a cheek!

[mazie]

Mind you, I have friends that never had a cuddle from their Mother's.Never told they were loved either, sad. I know which I prefer.

[Tilly2]

What did you say to her, in reply?

[Sqad]

mazie.......if your 32 year old needs a cuddle, then redman or myself would be pleased to oblige........separately, naturally.

[mazie]

LOL, sqad, not a chance x

[redman41]

LOL LOL Sqad !!
We'll give that woman at the nursery a squeeze as well while we are there

[B00]

Mini Boo's now 9 and Mr Boo still picks her up and cuddles her if he collects her from school! Daft? Yes may be, but they but think it's hilarious so who cares?

I don't, but that's only because I physically can't pick her up any more!

[gness]

Ignore, Nelly....she's probably part way through some silly course that will make her even more of an expert than she is now.....and she needs to be seen showing off her expertise....

Cuddle and carry til your knees wobble.....☺

[Mosaic]

Why is this nursery allowing strangers, unintroduced, to be near parents and children? I would want an answer if it were me.

[daftgrandad]

Very well said redman,my sentiments exactly !

[nellypope]

I was actually quite dumbfounded and also I always assume people are being friendly, but very quickly realised her comment was not quite right. So to be honest I was a little upset coming away. I'm going to ask today who these ladies are. I don't want to come across as nosey, but I think if there are people at my daughters nursery whom I don't know, I think I have some rights to ask??

[snags]

"don't you think she's a bit big for that?"

My reply: well you look a bit big for that dress but you still wear it...

[rockyracoon]

For Funks Sake what is the world coming to when it's thought that a child is to big for a cuddle.

I echo Redmans sentiments!