Rather than using a pseudo-intellectual phrase like ad-hominen, you’d be better off using a phrase like play the ball not the player; it’s more inclusive!
I have no doubt some men hate women, but it’s probably a similar ratio to misandry, so I’m struggling to see the reason for the post, other than for you to declare you’re so achingly right-on.
The fact is the vast majority of men don’t hate women, and vice versa - of course there’s a few, and there’s a few women who hate men too, but I would argue both are statiscally irrelevant.
What are you hoping to gain/learn from this question?