Advice needed fast please

[janetsflower]

My son has just got home from school quite upset and claiming the PE teacher has hit him. Yes he admits he was playing up in the lesson, he hates PE and we are all free to have our own likes and dislikes, and no he shouldn't have been playing up i agree with all that but the teacher apparently took him off where no one else could see and said he would hit him if he thought it would do any good, my son cheekily replied you would get arrested for that and the teacher said no one would believe him and hit him in the chest with hockey stick. My son has reported it to his form tutor who told deputy head who went for word with PE teacher and PE teacher claims he just tapped him. Deputy head is just cross with my son for messing around in PE, my son is upset, I don't know what to do, obviously first thought is go up o school and hit PE teacher myself but somehow i don't think thats gonna help!! Any advice PLEASE. Final point my son has Aspergers Syndrome and has support at school a lot of the time but didn't in this lesson. No one else witnessed what happened

[4getmenot]

I would be up the school in a shot, but unfortunately with no witnesses I;m afraid its a lost cause

[poohshunny]

I would take this matter up with the school. In the light of all the anti bullying campaigns around the country, if another child at the school had been the one doing the hitting, I'm sure the school would investigate. In short, the teacher sounds like a bit of a bully and why should that not be investgated in the same way?

[janetsflower]

Yeah thats what I thought exactly, they will stick together won't they, hence my idea of hitting PE teacher myself. I don't wat to fall out with rest of teachers either cos they are doing a reasonable jon at supporting my son now, though is not always been that way, but i feel i have to do something else i am letting my son down are't I? Oh why do these things have to happen

[mistys]

Even with no witnesses you can't drop this incident. It's really serious and if he has hit your child then he may have hit other's. Speak to the head teacher yourself and get your son to repeat what happened!
How old is your son?
I can't believe he hit him with a hockey stick! That is so bad!

And as hard as it may sound, try to stay calm when talking to the head teacher. He's unlikely to take you seriously if you go there all guns blazing.

[daffy654]

Go to the governors of the school or report it to the police. I have a son with Asperger Syndrome who starts high school next year and you can bet i'd be as angry as you are.

[janetsflower]

My son is 13. I do feel I have to do something and yes i think PE teacher is a bully, my worry is they won't believe him and then teacher and his mates will all pick on my son even more

[andrea81]

No child should have to put up with this. I think you should get in touch with Citizens advice (other ABers may have a better contact) just to find out what presedure they are meant to follow (I'm sure there is a legislation/act for this) and then you can enforce this!

Good luck and please don't give up, many parents will be behind you I'm sure (some other children may have gone through same thing and could add wait to this)

[mistys]

If he is 13 then the teacher's should realise he isn't likey to be lying about something like this. He isn't a child anymore and they should hopefully listen to what he has to say. The teacher shouldn't be allowed to get away with something like this!

[4getmenot]

yes it is serious but you yourself have said he was playing up, I;m not saying he has lied but the teachers may just say he alwsy plays up.

[raysparx1]

whatever you do, don't hit him, that used to be my way of dealing with things, but the moment you do that you have lost, stay calm, write down all you want to say, say it slowly and calmly, but don't let it go, they will stick together but you must get it logged, if you get no sense from the head go to the school governers, good luck, Ray

[daffy654]

I know this is slightly different but when I was at school back in the 80's our female PE teacher was off sick so we did PE with the boys in the gym,the male teacher kept touching mine and another girl's bare legs so my friend got a golf club and hit him round the head with it.He tried to get her excluded but actually ended up getting himself sacked for inapropriate behaviour.Sometimes the schools do see sense.

[4GS]

Report it!!
Even if there were no witnesses, this so called teacher may already have hit other pupils and be known to the LEA.
There will be an investigation, the LEA have an obligation to have one, and keep you fully informed of any findings
Report it please. The man has no right to use physical force on your son, or any child

[MiniN]

janet, the answer is obvious, take no sh!t from the school. phone the head teacher direct tell him the situation and that you will now be phoning the police. and do phone the police. to me, the teacher seems very suspect because he took you're boy off where no-one would see them - he could have done ANYTHING. threats of violence have no place in a school, especially coming from a teacher!!!

protect your son and the other children and make this a problem for the school until they remove this teacher - you owe it to your son. protecting your child is the most important thing to do!

[MiniN]

oh and don't worry about the fact there was no witnesses. when i was in high school a teacher tripped up a student down the stairs on purpose and there was no witnesses. but as the mum did what i suggest you do (see my last post) and also threatened to get the press involved, the teacher swiftly got booted out of the school!

[cazzz1975]

I would get in touch with the school regarding this pronto, this is not the way to deal with bad behaviour, I would also look at trying to work with your son and the school on why he is playing up in lessons.

most children dont like a lot of lessons but it is no excuse to play up or be cheeky, if its an issue for the senco there may be a way to structure certain lessons that may omprove his behaviour

[MiniN]

oh and by the way, what that teacher did is classed as Assualt and is something serious.

[lorri24601]

call the teachers bluff, phone the head teacher and say you are concerned as your son has come home with red mark on his chest and ask for an explanation of how it happened ,sometimes as parents we have to exagerate ourselves in order to get to the truth ;-)

[figure]

Very good advice from all the above posters. Don't forget to keep a log of everything. I cannot stress enough of how important this could be.

[josie48]

Janet. My son also Asperger,was bullied in school and the head did nothing about it as,in her words "The staff could'nt watch all the pupils all the time". so she was just as bad as the bully. We kept our son home for 2 weeks whilst interacting with the education authorties. We stuck to our guns and said we would involve the press. The EA then gave us the option to move our son to another special school and he never loked back. We also brought in our GP as son was stressed as you'll understand. Please involve your gp,the stress on your son must be terrible and for you. Good luck.

[Rollo]

You say your son was "hit" with a hockey stick.

Are there marks/bruises? If there are then they are evidence but they will fade , so you can't leave it before reporting it. You need to get any such evidence on record.