Trans....

[pixie374]

My oldest son has been trans for around 13 years. He is well aware of my views, but also that obviously I will support him no matter what. He has no doubt that I will do whatever necessary.
He has now been on antidepressants for 16 months- and we already knew that being on them for 2 years, changed the minds of 80% of people... so I made it a condition before paying for any operations...that he tried that first.
He has now changed his mind and realised this isn't the answer. Entirely on his own. But why is this not a criteria in the first place?

[shoota]

Best wishes to him.

[bobbinwales]

//and realised this isn't the answer.//
Do you mean being trans or taking antidepressants?

[pixie374]

Thank you :-) xx
being trans, bobbin. He was so sure at one point- but was never going to achieve it. I never said that to him, but told him he could do what he wanted- but I wasn't paying until he had the usual treatment first.

[bobbinwales]

Best wishes to him whatever he decides. When the medication stops it may take some time for him to decide what he really wants and there may be some periods of doubt so best wishes to you both

[pixie374]

Thank you bobbin xx

[Chinajan]

Agree with you pixie. I believe people wanting reassignment surgery on the NHS have to meet quite strict criteria [though I haven't researched what these are], but aside from that if an adult has the wherewithal to go private I'm sure they would find a willing surgeon somewhere. It's worrying that such irreversible and drastic procedures can be entered into when the circumstances might turn out like your son's.

I don't wish to make light of your family's experiences but I saw a comment the other day from someone who is 'de-transitioning'. They said [something like], 'Twenty odd years ago I'd have just become a goth for a bit'. That's very much a simplification of a very complicated area, but I'm sure you'll understand the point and hope you understand why I added it here. All the best to your son.

[Mamyalynne]

You certainly don't need surgery to be trans, I'm glad he has held back from that.

Of course we support our children, it's what we do, wish him and you well.

[pixie374]

Thank you China and mamya xx totally agree, China... it's got to the point where it's a normal option. I'm so glad he changed his mind before he did anything too irreversible.
I couldn't say that, just glad he realised himself x

[Theland]

Its a lovely story hearing that your son has such a loving, caring and supportive mother.
With that support I'm sure everything will turn out OK.

[pixie374]

That's kind, theland... thank you:-)

[bednobs]

if he's been trans for 13 years, there is always the possibility he may of course change his mind again.

[Georgiesmum]

I wish him all the best pixie xxx

[pixie374]

Thank you both :-) xx I meant 3 years... but yes, i know what you mean :-)

[Bobbisox1]

Pixie he’s very lucky to have such a caring Mum, whatever he decides ,good luck to him always ( and you )

[pixie374]

Thank you bobbi :-) xx