should we break?

[dizydosydoll]

Hi
Over the last 2 years i have been considering leaving my partner the father of my 3 yr old child. I am only 22 and just feel that i can do better that you only get 1 life and you should share it with the right person. When we first got together things we brilliant i felt really appreciated and now i just fell like im taken for grantid and believe i am living with the most selfish male ever. Do you think that maybe a break would be better than a break up.
Thanks in advance

[4getmenot]

That is entirely all up to you. You may say he takes you for grantid but he could also just be one of those blokes that finds it hard to show you how he feels or just doesnt think it is necessary to tell you all the time. Things do change, you expect it to be like the first date every day.

[Champagne]

Have you addressed the issues reasonably and calmly? If you've tried everything you can (together) and you are convinced that things will never change, then yes you'd be right to move on. I certainly wouldn't recommend staying in a relationship when you are miserable. That is a life half-lived and you'll end up a bitter old woman.

But I think you should only leave if you've tried every avenue, as you do have a child involved.

[yinyang]

Have you tried talking to him - it may be that he has no idea how you're feeling. The thing about thoughtless behaviour is that, well, people do it without thinking.I've been going through a wobbly with my husband that reached a head last week and now that we're actually talking ( and not yelling ) I think we understand each other a lot more and I now can see that we've both been letting things slide.
Like 4getmenot says, things do change. Unfortunately, the real world interferes in even the strongest of relationships.Only you know what you're true feelings for this man are and if you think your relationship's worth fighting for .
I wish you happiness whatever you decide.x

[Rubyrose]

I think you certainly need some time out to firgure out what you want. If a break would be better for you then do that. Its can't be worse than spending the rest of your life with him and wondering if he is right for you!

I agree that life is too short and you don't get any second chances... enjoy it and take a risk.
Xx

[dizydosydoll]

thanks for all your advice, yes i have spoke about it to him and we said that this was the last time we would give it a try he says that he would like a little more respect and i said that i wanted a little more thought like family outings and a nice cooked meal or the pictures once in a while not him hust doing his own thing, but no real effort seems to have been made i know things change and it can't be like the beggining all the time but there is no harm in trying to get it back and being happy. I do believe a break would be the best option its make or break.

[4getmenot]

you sound like you already have a good head on your shoulders to decide for yourself :-) all the best xx