Am i clasping at straws

[puddicat]

Went out with a guy that i think mountains of, but due to my emotional issues it didnt work out between us, he says he has made a decision, it means that we are not a couple anymore, but we are still in touch and he always wants to know if i am going out with someone, i miss him loads but i am being realsitic we dont have a future do we!

[888sally888]

Sounds like he doesnt want to be with you but doesnt want you seeing anyone else.

Maybe he just cant cope with your issues - is he a strong person?

[beso]

I might be reading too much into this but did he "help you realise you had emotional problems"? Does he do whatever he likes yet expect you to be at his beck and call? Do you feel he called all the shots in the relationship?

These are the signs of control freak men and they are awefully common. If this sounds familiar then run for your life. Otherwise you haven't really said enough to make a judgement call.

[cruella]

Hi puddicat
Good to hear from you again!
If you are both still in touch, he may still care about how you are doing, since you said you both split due to your emotional issues.
Depending on what issues you had, he may be hoping that they are all sorted out now, and you can both move forward.
Depending how long you were both an item, and how well you got to know each other, it might be a good thing and sit down to talk things through. Maybe by talking you can both work things out.
Hope this makes sense.

[jno]

when you say he always wants to know if you're going out with someone, that could means he just inquires if you're socially active, or he's demanding names addresses and phone numbers of your escorts. The former is friendly behaviour, the latter is control freakery. So it depends. But really, no, if he's said it's over it's over. I suppose this will only add to your emotional issues. Have you tried seeking therapy to work through them?

[MiniN]

puddicat, he doesn't sound like the right guy for you. if he made the deicision then he needs to stick to it instead of ringing to see if your with someone new.

also I'd suggest that you maybe you should sort your own issues out before you get involved with someone new. sometimes its good to be on your own.

[Reverandfunk]

An ex is an ex is an ex

To me personally that means, no calls, no texts, no contact whatsover. Whats the point of still being in touch?

If you want to be with someone your with them. Time to move on ;-)