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Here is an update. I have been back to my Quaker meetings and discussed things. I have learned that you should always try to avoid killing and violence, and I agree with that. In an emergency situation, like where a loved one is going to be killed by somebody, most Quakers say they try not to think about that. But I do.
One Quaker writes that 'seizing power never solved anything'. I disagree. The Jews who escaped from Sobibor death camp could only do so by killing SS guards and, if they didn't do that, they and their loved ones would have been killed.
So I think on, I am reading Quaker literature, I have arranged personal discussions. My journey continues.