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ChatterBank0 min ago
my dad sometimes refers to a chinese person as a chinee. (he is 78)
Does this mean anything? is it offensive? is it just an old fashioned term, like coloured?
No best answer has yet been selected by joko. Once a best answer has been selected, it will be shown here.
For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.His answer was fairly obvious. Simply saying 'no' is not exactly helpful and the other stuff about posties was mildly interesting but again nothing new, so why would I give him stars?
I am grateful people taking the time to answer, but the question had already been answered far more eloquently by two other people.
His smartarse comment that my dad was old so wouldn't ever meet any chinese people irritated me because firstly he knows nothing about me or my dad and the sort of people we meet, and implying he will die before he gets chance to meet any is pointless and rude and I don't want to hear it.
why is this so hard for you to understand jno? what do you care what i say to PP?
perhaps I should make random irrelevent comments about your elderly and unwell parents being 10 years older than they are and that they will undoubtedly be dying soon anyway, so who cares what they think and say? Would you give me stars?
the reason I answered was just general interest in keeping this a civil website. In fact, although the answers given in earlier posts may have been more eloquent, they actually differed from what PP said: he said Chinese did find it offensive, the others (including me) doubted it. In the past, I've found PP's answers to be knowledgeable and helpful; so I'm inclined to think he may be right and I was wrong. If so, then 'Chinee' is a term to be used only with great caution, which means I've learnt something and maybe you have too (I say if because I don't know for sure, of course).
You and he are free to say what you like about my parents; it's a website, and I'm perfectly well aware that neither of you knows me, or them, so I'll know the comments aren't directed at real people and I won't be offended. I award stars to people who have taken the trouble to answer my questions regardless of what they think of my family; though there is no obligation to do so.
jno - read the posts properly and try to understand. You are completely missing the point.
For some reason you are misunderstanding these posts entirely, I don't know why, but I am not going to keep explaining to you and repeating what I have already said just because you haven't comprehended the first time.
I don't care if he gave the most fabulous answer in the history of AB - he was rude about my father and I am certainly not going to reward him for it. As I said, I didn't think his answer was that great anyway - simply saying 'no' is not helpful or informative, and the fact that you shouldn't say it was made perfectly obvious from QM's illuminating answer.
I have no intention of ever mentioning your parents - I never said I would - I was making a point.