whats your thoughts on this

[gaspanic]

Well I have big question

The girl Im dating currently is proclaiming to be very much into me and bought me a ring etc etc etc we done all the normal things couples do etc etc, just a question I have
is tonight she said she was going to a makeover night with the girls and I was like "have a goodtime love" when i called her which she asked me to around 9:30pm there was loud music guys talking and she said she was getting quite wasted
i was like ok cool on getting wasted just get home safely, but why are there blokes around? and then she proceeded to tell me she never knew they'd be there and well it seems like a party... then she asked if she could stay the night and that the guys would be in their own room...

my question is we've been together 3 months, which isnt long, shes very serious about me or claims to be, but we do live a good 200miles apart...so i said no to spending the night do you people think shes not serious? and im being messed around...

just a general thing
ta
also is it possible you never find love or a relationship and live alone forever? do these people exist!! all i seem to meet is women who act faithful then swan off for no reason maybe they get too comfortable maybe its just people these days
help ab's

[DavideMexia]

womans are like cats. you never know when you will be betrayed, the are moody, they change mood like they change their knickers.

so all i advice u is to let her go.

[gaspanic]

i got no qualms cutting ties with her, she isnt my life line im just curious to why she is behaving in the manner she is... considering everytime i say "leave it" - as in leave me be im simple jsut want companionship and respect and love she starts crying her eyes out

[gaspanic]

eh people these days im better of being a table or a can of beans.

[Invictas]

If that is how she acts when she being serious,I wouldn't like to be with her when she decides not to be serious!

[NOX]

Trust her- it's simple. Trust her 'til you find you have a reason not to- because if you can't trust her then you've lost nothing in the first place. Women are not like cats etc as per above, they're like you and I, there are nice ones, nasty ones, true ones and false ones and yes really good ones do exist. Good luck- hope you've found one.

[Andyvon]

Gaspanic,

I'm sorry mate but she's not serious about you. You certainly can't tell her what to do and she's got her own life to lead. However, if she felt anything for you there is no way she would want to go to a party without you. If you feel that much for someone you just can't get enough of them. You certainly don't want to be apart and if she couldn't go to the party without you then she wouldn't go. Don't listen to this nonsense about "I need my own space" etc. That just means she can take so much of you but there is a limit. If she was serious about you she would be there all the time.

I'm sorry and it's a painful thing to learn but she's off doing her own thing with other people. When you find yourself someone who you can't bear to be away from and who feels the same about you then you will realise what a waste of time this girl is. That special girl is out there and you will meet her if you are patient. Then you will be very happy.

Good luck.

[gaspanic]

i agree with Andyvon but also with NOX
trust is important but why go to a party and stuff i mean parties are for "us" to go to together

I am a bit hurt i know i live far 200miles isnt something i can afford every day but yes trust matters but why the "makeover" then some guys were back there and she said "ugh they are ugly i only love and want you"
does she want her cake and eat it too?

[DavideMexia]

Nox. I said woman are like cats in the sense that the mens best friend are dogs.
A dog hates cats but they can still live together, cant they ?
lolol

[NOX]

Going to a party on your own means absolutely s0d all, and doing things independantly is healthy. What's not healthy is living in each other's pockets, and my thoughts are if she was really up to anything since she's 200 miles away she wouldn't have called you at all and just said her phone was flat. Seriously I wouldn;t take these as the actions of anyone doing anything wrong, but they are the actions of an independant person which if you're in a relationship is good, no-one wants a clinging looney.

[gaspanic]

men/women just as bad as one another it has nothing to do with gender just people

[NOX]

sorry davide cats are known to be fickle and unreliable- I took it that way- sorry for the misunderstanding:)

[gaspanic]

yeah but by taking my calls or saying "call me" means f all really maybe she wants her cake and eat it?

[gaspanic]

argh F it, if she wants to be shallow and fickle so be it, who give a monkeys arse i know where i stand

SOME of you women make me sick.

[NOX]

If that were true she'd have kept quiet about the party and she certainly wouldn't have asked your permission to stay anywhere- my ex wife would no more have asked my permission than flown through the air, and niether would I have asked hers if it were reversed. The issue here is trust or rather the lack of it.Why do you doubt her so much, is this the first time it's occured to you?

[gaspanic]

first off she told me it was a makeover do.
then i asked who the guys were so no she did lie
and for her to even insinuate she could stay over where blokes may be sleeping is wrong
i wouldnt do that
its about perception and making someone feel right and shes betrayed that

[Andyvon]

I can only think NOX has never met that special person as many people sadly don't.

When you do meet that one person in life you can't bear to be away from them and you want to spend all your time together. I never got close to anyone and was an almost total loner until I met my wife inour mid 30s. She's the only person I don't want to be away from and we do everything together and have for the years we've been married. I knew some women who I thought I felt something for and who I thought felt for me but I always wanted my breathing space away from them otherwise they started to irriate me after a while. My wife is completely different and I now realise I have experienced love for the first time. My wife feels the same about me. We realise the others didn't really mean anything.

If you met someone who you truely loved NOX then you would suddenly realise how naive your comments are. You obviously have never met that special person, just those you can tolerate for a while then need to get them out of your hair. They probably feel the same about you.

[DavideMexia]

gaspanic, if i were u i wouldnt bother so much man.

[gaspanic]

andyvon and nox please chill out dont argue

im already in a down/bad mood dont need to see 2 other people on here picking fights

and david i know man i should leave it, alone but ugh i hate my trust being betrayed ive poured so much into this relationship

[gaspanic]

i know 3 months is trivial but ugh i been in long things and she feels like the one but i dont know maybe its her age?

shes 19 im 27

[DavideMexia]

nothing to do with age man, what counts is the experience.