anti cancer injection - father won't allow!!

[joko]

a father is trying to stop his 13 year old daughters mother from allowing her to have an anti-cancer injection for cervical cancer.

it has to be done before the girl is sexually active so 13 is a good age.

his reason? he thinks it is encouraging her to have sex!!

can anyone show me a woman who has ever avoided sex for fear of cervical cancer?

do most woman even give this a second thought when they become sexually active?

this man thinks it is telling her to have sex!!

so, far from possibly saving her life in the future, this is something rude?

he would potentially risk her life, because of some silly irrational sense of fear that his daughter will one day grow up?

what do you think?

[natalie_1982]

If there is an injection that prevents cervical cancer, why don't the rest of us have it? Sorry, not answering the question I know, but never heard of that before.

[joko]

i had never heard of it either - i expect it is new.

I read this in one of those bella, chat, takeabreak mags - i will try to find it again to give more details

[joko]

it is in 'first' magazine, it is apparently only available privately from 'direct health 2000' and costs �400

[bednobs]

there is indeed an immunisation against cervical cancer ... I think you have to have it before becoming sexuallyy active

[missrandom]

Yep you do have to have it before becomming sexually active, the earlier the better. I thought the girl was only 9, but so what, I think all girls at, say 11, should have it, like the german measles jab. The same principle applies with that. Its about protecting their FUTURE health, any girl that is going to have sex at a young age is going to do it, jab or no jab.

[enigma]

When I signed up to make donations by direct debit to Cancer Research , the girl I spoke to told me about all the hard work which they have done in the battle to try to end Cancer. She told me about this injection and said that women of my generation could still be affected by cervical cancer but for my girls' generation , they could eradicate cervical cancer. I can not comprehend how any parent could not want this injection for their child and it indeed seems as if the father in question is allowing his fatherly concern to turn into an irrational fear which could possibly have dire consequences for his daughter in the future. It seems selfish to gamble with your child's health and well being but perhaps he is not in full possession of the facts. Either way , he can wrap his daughter in cotton wool all he likes but if he pulls her in too tightly , the more likely she will be to want to break free. I am sure that a part of every parent wants to keep their child forever young but that's impossible and the sooner he accepts that , the better - for his daughter's sake.

[Pippa68]

The father needs some education!

[joko]

agreed enigma and pippa, but you know what?

the dad works at the clinic that offers the jab!
it is a family business, his wife is chief exec!

so he knows all about the jab and he knows his wife knows - this is about a father who can't bear his little girl to grow up and even think about a boy!
he is a control freak.
he wants her to have it at 17-18 - ''when she might be thinking of becoming sexually active''...!
hate to be the one to break it to him but she will have been thinking of it long before then and very probably will have already done it!

he also claims that they may think they are protected against ALL diseases, and pregnancy, so he can't risk it... err ... so tell them they are not !!
simply make sure that they know they are not!

and yes she is 9 not 13 - don't know where i got that from... but actually that makes it worse - for him to think a 9 year old will rush out and have sex just because of this jab is ridiculous - it was ridiculous enough with a 13 year old, and thats at least more possible than a 9 year old!

i know dads get 'squeamish' at the thought of their daughters having sex, but this guy needs to take a logic pill and remove the blinkers!

[enigma]

That really beggars belief ! I was excusing his ignorance because I believed him to be ignorant to the facts but the fact that he actually works at the clinic offering this new injection is astounding. To hear the young age of his daughter is really peculiar as well because I could just about understand his irrational fears if he was worrying over his teenage daughter's behaviour (but even then , I would still struggle to understand how he could actually believe that having this injection would lead to promiscuity.) but to hear that she is in actual fact only nine years old is incredulous.

I also agree with you when you say that he should educate his daughter properly about the dangers of unprotected sex and explain that the injection does not protect against pregnancy and sexually transmitted infections , although I do not think that perhaps nine years old is an appropriate age for that type of conversation. Let's be honest though , the current breed of teenagers and their attitude towards sex leaves a lot to be desired. When I was at school (i'm 31) , the average age a girl lost her virginity at was 17 but nowadays , this would be a subject of ridicule for many. Indeed , it's scary to think how many teenagers rush into losing their virginity at such a tender age , so as far as I am concerned , the younger the better for young girls BEFORE they even start to have sexual thoughts.

I wonder though whether he found the idea of having his daughter protected by immunisation against Mumps , Measles , Rubella etc to be totally abhorrent. In my opinion , this injection should be viewed as nothing more than a routine injection to ensure the continuing well being of his daughter in the future. It's as simple as this , if she wants to have sex , then she will - regardless of whether or not she has had this injection so his reasoning is severely flawed. Let's just hope that his wife vetoes his ludicrous decision.

[joko]

i know....that he thinks she may hold back from doing what she wants to do because she hasn't had the jab!!

i doubt anyone even considered it as teens.


if he is so worried about kids believing they are protected against other things, perhaps don't tell them exactly what it is - just say its for cancer... i don't recall being sat down and explained to about the jabs i had as a kid.

although in his instance i don't see hpw she can misunderstand - this is her mum and dads job - she must be more aware than any other girl about what this does!

the girl herself agrees it a good idea - and claims to have an 8 year old boyfriend, but they don't kiss.
she also states she doesn't want to have sex until she is 30 - obviously this will change - but right now this is her state of mind, so how can he think she will suddenly turn into a 9 year old nympho!