My Husband Is Blaming Me

[scruffbag]

Hi,
Could you please help?
My husband and I have had a disagreement and he blames me
He does not see my side, and now I know he is not going to back down
He is not talking to me
What is the best way of dealing with this situation please?
Many thanks in advance

[Bazile]

Blaming you for what ?

[naomi24]

What are you supposed to have done?

[emmie]

its childish not talking to someone, that's playground nonsense.

[emmie]

Mr Em was like that at times, and it drove me to distraction, i broke the silence by asking what was wrong... usually it had the desired effect

[pastafreak]

Do as emmie did, or just go about your business as usual. He'll have to talk at some point.

[rayzorless]

dump him. any man who treats his wife that way dosnt deserve one

[AuntPG]

To answer sensibly we really need to know what he blames you for.

[davebro]

Whatever it was going silent is not a good or appropriate response. Tell him to stop acting so childishly & if you can't agree then you must agree to differ.

[rayzorless]

I agree with Davebro. I can speak from experience. My first wife treated me like that for 24 years. I dumped her and found someone else and for 25 years I was in heaven we never argued never fell out always went to bed friends. Never said no to each other we agreed to differ and got on with life.. Absolute magic

[Khandro]

The silent treatment is usually the woman's weapon I have found, I have also found that total 100% capitulation is the only way forward, unless you want the siege of Stalingrad in your house for days to come.

[rowanwitch]

If you are wrong ...then apologise and hope he comes round, if he is in the wrong ask him if this issue is a symptom of something bigger going on. Is there a deeper reason, is he trying to make you feel bad because he feels inadequate and trying to regain power in the relationship? Is he having an affair and feels guilty so trying to make it seem like you are not getting on so you make it easier for him to go, lots of possibilities, but if you get him to open up be prepared for things you may not wish to hear, even if it's only had stuff from before you knew him affecting his behaviour now.

[woofgang]

kill him and bury him under the patio

[lankeela]

You could get drunk, take a sleeping tablet and hope he doesn't talk to you for months. Must have worked last time you did it four years ago.

[johnk]

When my wife does this I just enjoy it!

[1ozzy]

Lol John, I hear you

[Cloverjo]

My husband does this. It used to drive me nuts. Now, I just think I’ll enjoy the peace.
Cook meals and make drinks for yourself. If he says “What about me?”, say ‘I didn’t know you wanted anything.’

[emmie]

i wouldn't put up with this now, life is just too short.