Siamese cat protest becoming unbearable - peeing, etc

[slendersiam]

Hi, I have a Siamese, 6, I am struggling to cope with her demands now & can't figure out a way to solve the issue. A couple of big things have happened recently to start things off. I got a puppy in October. She sleeps with the puppy, aggravates her but the puppy is a happy lab that takes the abuse & they get on. I then fell pregnant in November - she knew instantly. I've had bad exhaustion & morning sickness - she started to act up. I know it's a lot for her to cope with. I just can't handle her, with the way I feel right now, the peeing is driving me nuts because I want the house clean for when the twins come. My other cat is fine. she starts walking on my head at 4am, back/forth, hitting me with her tail, yowling at me. I'm going to lock her out of the bedroom (first time in over 5 years)&fear that will only make her even more insecure! She follows me around the house constantly yowling, hysterically, like a shadow sits glaring at me when I'm seated, or glued to my ankle as I move. If I am on the sofa or bed she doesnt seem able to get comfy on me, constantly trying to get closer as if she wants to crawl into my skin. I feel as if she is suffocating me. My heart breaks for her because she looks so distressed but nothing I do seems to console her. With twins on the way I don't think I can cope with such neurotic, clingy high pitch behaviour. She is definitely not ill, the plug in air diffusers - waste of �, bach remedies are what Im trying at the moment in her water (worked once before). She can come&go as she likes but hates the snow so choses to stay in - so is bored. She does use her littler tray but also everywhere else. Yesterday, she peed on my spare bed - 1st time ever, in bath, on tiles next to shower, on stairs - all in 1 day. I'm trying to love her&reassure her that her home is safe&that I will always adore her but she's pushing me over the edge&I'm starting to shout at her - making it worse!

[LoftyLottie2]

Such typical siamese behaviour. They can be so demanding and are highly intelligent and intuitive. They are also very jealous. A friend had one and he used to attack visitors to the house simply because he was jealous of the attention my friend gave them.

I can't give you an answer but some vets have vet nurses that specialise in animal behaviour and they might have some good tips.

Perhaps when the weather improves and she can go out things might settle down, but obviously you will worry about your baby who will need all of your attention.

Personally, I would talk to a vet about it and try and get the matter sorted before your baby comes along - otherwise you may have to consider rehoming her (for her sake as well as your own).

(I am not the sort of person who gets rid of a pet just because a baby appears on the scene. I had three cats and a dog when I had mine! - but I do know that Siamese can be difficult. They are lovely though.)

[andy-hughes]

As advised, your cats are highly attuned, and they know that something is very different, but they arte unsure what.

All your vibes will have changed from the familiar and safe to the strange and frightening, and they are acting as type - pestering, spraying everywhere (that is to mark their territory so the newcomer they feel is sure who is 'in charge'.)

Really you will need to see if they adapt when your babies arrive. Either they will move down the pecking order and accept the newcomers, or they will act up and be jealous, which presents security issues for your babies, and in that case, you may need to look at re-homing them.

Hope it works out for you.

[lankeela]

Very important - you should avoid handling the cat litter tray or cleaning up cat poo whilst pregnant, as there is a very real risk to your unborn babies from Toxoplasmosis, a virus in cat faeces. Ensure any surfaces where the cat walks are disinfected, as they can walk through the litter and carry it on their paws.

[slendersiam]

Thanks for the help. Rehoming her is not an option - I couldnt do it to her. As for Toxoplasmosis, I'm immune to it - checked that out straight away - so I can relax. I still make the hubbie do the litter trays, dog poop run and chickens though :-) Any other tips on how to make her feel wanted and at peace will be greatly appreciated.

[tamborine]

Restrict her space so that she feels more secure in the place you have allotted her, ie a caged area that is for her alone. She will play up while getting used to the new regime but by the time your twins arrive she should feel more secure in her space.....an she is out of the way of the babes.