too young to be pregnant?

[jpzeppiec]

Im only 19 years old and im pregant with my boyfriend of 5 months. He loves me but im not sure if I feel the same. Should I stay with him because of the pregnacy and the chance to maybe feel the same? Im scared to tell my parents im pregnant because my dad is religious and im the baby of the family (yes, they still think of me as a child). Plus none of the other children have had children so it would be there first grandchild. Together my boyfriend and I have the means to support the baby with insurance and all yet i know i will disappoint everyone at work and in my family. HELP. Im extremely confused about everything.

[Pea Pod]

The reference to insurance must mean you live in the states.Where are you living at the moment (with parents or boyfriend)

[jpzeppiec]

I live on my own. Im in the military.

[jpzeppiec]

Wait let me better answer that question. I do live with my boyfriend but i was implying that i do not live with my parents. We are planning on moving into a house as soon as the appartment lease is up.

[Panic Button]

Unless you are thinking of a termination, not telling your parents is simply not an option.

Do it ASAP

[Pea Pod]

You are going to need a lot of support.. I suggest you need to tell your mother.It is no good staying with someone because you are pregnant.Your answer to where you were living, was not what I expected.Have you a best friend to talk with, maybe not military till you decide what your doing.

[jno]

if you have the money to raise a child, and the love and support of your man, you're well ahead of lots of other women. Nineteen isn't all that young - 50 years ago it would have been routine to have a child at that age - but it does mean you'll have to put some of your life (certainly not all of it) on hold while you're busy with your child. I can see you feel a bit alarmed at being the first in your family to do it, as you've got nobody to model yourself on. But you do have parents who can guide you (I'm guessing they won't be as disappointed as you think, but that's just a guess). I don't think you should worry about disappointing people at work - it's your life, not theirs - though I don't know what effect pregnancy will have on your career.

In the end only you can decide this. There's no perfect way of handling it, but there are many pluses as well as minuses: having a child is hard work but rewarding too. But in the end you must ask yourself - not your family or your co-workers - whether you want to go through with it.

[jpzeppiec]

Yes I have told a couple friends. Its a lot easier telling them than my judgemental family. I am keeping the baby even though I wasnt one to ever want a child. Priorities change and abortion and adoption are not options for me.

[Panic Button]

Bite the bullet.

Tell them tomorrow.

As Jno says, they might surprise you.

[CJ242]

TELL YOUR PARENTS!!!
They may yell, they might not. They might say some very hurtful things. Unless they are completely heartless, eventually they will calm down and want to help you.
As for the father, honey, if you don't feel you should be with him, the worst thing you can do is stay together just because of the baby!
You say you're not sure!
All you have to ask yourself is, do you see yourself raising this child and building a life together with this man
If you feel there is a chance then give the relationship that chance.
If not, then get out and figure out what you want!
I know it's scary but you have to do what's best for YOU right now!
TELL YOUR PARENTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[TTG]

Tell your mother in private first.

Good luck to you and your new baby. I hope it all works out for you.