the problem with 'truth' is some people can unknowingly convince themselves that they are telling it.
i have had two friends over the years where this was abundantly evident - and i have to say it shocked me... how they could truly say something that blatantly had never happened ... their perceptions where just addled.
i am no longer friends with either of them - just coudlnt stand it, particularly when it affected me.
for instance, one of them saw my ex in the pub, and told him that i was always going on about him, that i missed him and wanted him back, and that he should come round and see me.
he wanted to, and was actually on his to my house!
she phoned me - all excited - and told me what she'd done, thinking i was going to be excited and grateful to her!
she honestly believed she'd done a good thing!
i had never, ever, said this, not once, even in the months after we split - because it most certainly wasnt true - i was very glad to split, and we'd been apart for about 8 years and i not interested whatsoever.
i was furious and told her she better tell him she was wrong, and she was genuinely confused and hurt!
she just said 'oh, i thought you wanted him back'
there were many other incidents - ones where she didnt have my best interests at heart, and i hate to think of the crap she was saying to people.
the other girl - i was sitting outside at a pub table with her and her boyfriend and he went to the toilet, just as i been about to, so i went seconds later - we both went indoors to the toilets.
i came out and she snidily accused me of only going in so i could meet him in the toilets! we had planned it apparently!
it got ridculous and i think i kind of thought she cant be serious, but i knew she was - sort of - but i was annoyed too, so i told her not to be so daft, then her man came back just as i was saying 'oh yeah thats right i met him in the toilets for a kiss', and he just caught that last bit and looked at me shocked - her face just fell and she stared at me, and suddenly tried to make it look like i had just said that out of the blue unprovoked!
when i said 'but you just accused me!' and told him what shed said - and she denied it.
i dont know whether she was trying to cause trouble, or that she did not want him to know that she had accused me, or that she genuinely felt i had said it unprovoked.
i'd have bet on it being just denial in front of him, but later on i spoke to her on the phone she even lied to me!
she said he was furious with me, just because he knows she hates things like that, and didnt undertsand why i would say such a thing, and she denied it again!
so it seemed like she had convinced herself...again this was one of many incidents, and i gave up on her too.
but the point is, i have no doubt that both of these girls would have passed a lie detector on these issues (and others) ... because a lie detector is not magic, it cannot detect the 'real truth', only the persons perception of the truth...the one they believe