What A Dreadful Day

[BAKERS DOZEN]

Firstly the Out bunch won, secondly Mr Cameron is leaving and we might end up with the cheating unfaithful Johnson buffoon in charge and thirdly, and most upsetting, my grandson has moved out today to live in a flat with his girlfriend. They will both be students from Sept and have moved in expensive apartment that is way above their means - she wouldn't stay in student accom as not good enough for her. She rattles on about the budget she has done but on asking have discovered it does not include two bus passes, two mobile phone bills, a tv licence or contents insurance. They both just assumed that her parents and us would carry on paying. Welcome to the real world. He could have stayed with us for the next three years rent free and hopefully graduated without owing a penny. The annoying thing is he finished going out with her last year and we were so relieved because we really don't like her. She wouldn't give up and stalked him and kept ringing him and his friends until he spoke to her again. He has admitted to me that he is with her because he feels sorry for her. No basis for a relationship.

Let's see in three years if they have all made the right decisions. Mr BD is out tonight so I will console myself with the biggest bar of Galaxy I can find and something romantic on the telly.

[fiction-factory]

Could you get over to TTT's do?

[scorpiojo]

:))

[dannyk13]

///he is with her because he feels sorry for her///
The sooner he gets out of that relationship the better.

[BAKERS DOZEN]

Teetotal and could not cope with smug today. You lot enjoy it though. I've gone in and shut my door.

[scorpiojo]

I bet he's back home by Christmas...

[BAKERS DOZEN]

We've told him that of course. I'm just waiting for a few months, or next year, for her to say that she is pregnant. She is going to ruin his future but he is 20, we have said our piece so now they must get on with it.

[murraymints]

FAR too young for such domesticity..gosh..sound like my granny....wont last..wait till he needs clean pants and socks !!

[bednobs]

or of course, you could look on the bright side ... it might work!

[Hypognosis]

I'm not a parent so it still fascinates me how others strike a balance between letting them learn deep lessons by making their own mistakes and how much to try the "stitch, in time" approach.

Dishing out earnest advice in a way which won't be received as an instruction (or worse, an order), something to "rebel against" must be hard. Not giving it and having them later pleading "why didn't you warn me?" must be even worse.

Has it sunk in with him just how much she is disliked by others in the family?

[ummmm]

I had a 2 year old at his age. I coped perfectly well.

[DTCwordfan]

malheureusement, he has to find his own way....we all learned from our mistakes and continue to do so. So will he - and she.

[murraymints]

when bills roll in..washing piles up...dust and debris gather..partying stops...arguments start..recriminations follow...Gran's cosy home will shout out to him..lol...

[ummmm]

At 20 I'm sure he's capable of doing a bit of housework.

[Samuraisan]

Just as long as he knows your door is always open for him.

[murraymints]

women are stronger ummmm and you had a wee one depending on you.. times are different..expectations high and unrealistic, neither a stable relationship to start...does not bode well..

[ummmm]

I still had bills to pay, housework to do, a job to go to. It wasn't hard.

[tonyav]

He has admitted to me that he is with her because he feels sorry for her.

Bad bad bad, won't last very long.

[bednobs]

look on the bright side - it might work!

[murraymints]

big difference..you were a mother with responsibility..he's a lad and student to boot with no commitment to this girl !

[DTCwordfan]

That would be a brilliant advertising strap-line for Durex, bednobs.....//look on the bright side - it might work!//