Am I A Bad Person For Giving My Cat Away?

[LeslieAnneSmith]

I have had my cat for three years. He never really liked my sisters and every time he sees them, he tries to attack their feet or legs. Sometimes he will jump at me. When I try to cuddle him he just wiggles out of my arms or tries to bite or scratch me. I even tried laying beside him and gently petting him and he finds that irritating. He scratches himself often and because I let him out on the lanai or patio at the back of my house, I was wondering if he had fleas. So I tried to give him a bath but he scratched me. I know it's normal for cats to be moody but he's not very cuddly, it's weird because he can be really nice sometimes. He will rub against my leg sometimes but most of the time, if he rubs against my leg too long, he will bite. He's a lot nicer to strangers. I guess I was wondering, will I be a bad person for giving my cat away? I found a really lovely no kill shelter that's like kitty heaven for cats. The caretakers are very kind and the shelter looks more like a playroom for cats. I don't know, I really love him but if he's not going to let me bathe him or even get close to him, should I really keep him? Any advice or simple answer would be much appreciated. Thanks!

Leslie

[NoMercy]

The cat's behaviour issues might be down to distress from an infestation which sounds very much like fleas.

In the first instance I would treat the fleas and add in one of those diffusers, then reassess the cat's behaviour thereafter.

If the anti-social behaviour persists, in may be in everyone's best interests to find the cat a new home.

[davegosling]

Agreed. You and your cat are not compatible.

[bainbrig]

Cats are intelligent, sensitive, and complex fellow-creatures. Much like people, although the fact that they can’t talk often gets them labelled as ‘dumb’. They are not dumb.

Perhaps your cat has a persistent pain in its stomach - try living with that and always smiling!

Find a good, caring, sympathetic vet, who might be able to help. Or perhaps your cat just wants to be left alone with you - some do.

[LeslieAnneSmith]

@NoMercy @davegosling @bainbrig Thank you all for your answers and advice!

[RATTER15]

Not surprising that he dont like you if you try to bathe him!! there are plenty of flea treatments out there that do not require a bath. You may be better off with a stuffed toy that doesnt require you to be a nice and loving owner, you can even put it in a washing machine!!

Some people should not be allowed to have pets!!

[TWR]

You have tried your best Leslie , the time has come to say goodbye.x

[RATTER15]

She tried her best!!!? she tried bathing a cat!!! not exactly a lot of thought went into treating her cat for fleas!!

[Baldric]

///I don't bathe him often///

You bathe a Cat? . . . . . . . . . . Are you suicidal?
;o)

[murraymints]

sometimes cats and owners just don't get on..for a number of reasons... hence I have Wonky who has moved in..clearly he prefers here to his real home... but check out the health issues , that may be germane... dinnae no bath him though !

[ummmm]

My cat didn't mind water. Being a cat though it was on his terms.