How To Cope After A Death

[nailit]

Mum died last Monday.
I feel a bit numb but functional, been to work today after a week off.
Inbetween times, trying to empty my mum's bungalow etc ready to hand keys back to the council. One of my sisters has been busy making all the funeral arrangements, sorting out finances, settling bills etc, ive been trying to sort out the practical stuff, furniture removal etc,
Other sister couldnt give a monkeys about anything except to cry a few crocodile tears at the site of her corpse...

And then the vultures arrive.
We want that, we want this...

Does my freekin head in.....
I hate human nature,

[nailit]

Im plastered right now but theres certain element of my family that I cant stand....

[Mamyalynne]

It's never easy, you go through the motions and carry on - make time for yourself to think and breathe when you can.

[Mamyalynne]

Walk away from conflict, please - just don't respond to them.

[Peter Pedant]

have a rest and then return to the coal face

[Smowball]

You know where I am x

[Atheist]

Nailit; you're needed to be strong. Forget your bad sis, think about your good sis. If you cave in, then where is everybody else? Be a strength to all.

[rowanwitch]

Do what you can, when you can and feel free to tell the vultures to do one. What doesn't have someone special to go to is better sold. You can decide with your sisters what to do with any money raised.

[Atheist]

Nailit, don't get plastered.

[nailit]

Grand children and Great children decided to turn up.
Never been there for her but all wanting a cut.
P $$ off.
Me my sister and one of my nieces all night sitted her for her final week.
My other sister and her brood couldnt be arsed.

[nailit]

//Nailit, don't get plastered.// Already am...

[Atheist]

Nailit; I know it's hard, but your biggest battle is to not feel sorry for yourself - instead, you should be a support for your family. Don't brood on your weak relatives, think about your good ones, and help them through this - you're not the only one in pain.

[TonyV]

nailit if you are in drink then fine, you did all you could for your mum in her last days, don't worry about your sisters at the moment.

[Atheist]

Nailit; I'm plastered too. But you're not an idiot and you are not weak from what I've seen of you here. You have duties as well as rights. What would your family do without you?

[woofgang]

I have no words of advice and sympathy won't help but we are here to listen and support

[nailit]

Sorry, im just off-loading.
Im stressed to the max...

[Bobbisox1]

Nailit it's a fact of life that death, births and marriages will bring out the worst in people , keep a hold fella :0)

[DTCwordfan]

the best and worst in folk, Nailit - hold it in there....

[nailit]

Got be honest, my heads knackered. Just didnt understan how selfish people can be.

[calmck]

Sorry for your loss but Pleased that your mum is now at peace. When things are a bit calmer ask the "other sister" to make a list of what they are interested in and tell her you and your sister will discuss it. When my stepfather died his Will stipulated an equal division of all goods and chattels between five adult children and 11 grandchildren. Everything, no matter what, had to be valued and we each had to buy anything we wanted and all monies were divided between the five of us! Fortunately we were able to accept what each of us wanted

[woofgang]

offloading is what we are here for