soul mates- such a thing?

[GraceAnais]

is there really such a thing as a soul mate? considering fish kids ideas about what happens when you go to heaven; i'm just wondering whether people actually believe there is only one person truely meant for us or whether there could be a whole host of people that we could be engaged with throughout our lives? for example you may marry a man in your 20s who fulfills your needs then; but find someone who fulfils different needs whilst in your 50s? is this why so many people divorce? what experiences have people had of this? does The One really exist?

[Lonnie]

The 'one and only', yes, I believe that for some people, this does happen, and those people are the fortunate ones, because it means, no broken homes, and no broken families, but for others, there can be many partners, because its possible to fall in love many times, but its the promises that go with this that breaks hearts. Even though the male of the species is programmed to spread his seed, if a couple get together, and stay together, in most cases, this leads to a better and contented family.

As for divorce, people today, in a lot of cases, get divorced because its been made too easy, an opt out when things in a marrisge get a bit tough, instead of trying to work things out, a marriage has to be worked at, as a matter of interest, and there are loads of reasons as to why, approx 80% of divorces are instigated by women.

[GraceAnais]

80% instigated by women..really? i have to say alot of my friends marriages that have broken down have been for this reason. but often is is because the men get lazy and the women get ffed up. many men seem to just wanna laze and watch television after a certain point in their lives.

I'm not married myself, but as a child from a broken home, i'd hate to bring children into that. although there are many reasons why people change. what do you do if the man or woman you married really changes? i think that is why alot of marriages break down. also because we live in a society where there is so much choice....people have access to so much more these days (travel and the internet are also to blame for this)

and i do think a lot of men cheat....the ammount of married/attatched men that have come on to me is really shocking. infidelity is more rife than we imagine.

[Lonnie]

Grace, what I said is true, however, I also said, for whatever reason, 80% are instigated by women, but the fault, could easily be the mens, wife beating, adultery etc, sorry if the way I put it gave the wrong impression.

[halfadaily]

I used to believe that. I met my ex wife at 16, married at 19 and divorced a couple of years ago at 50. We always thought of each other as soulmates, spending all our time together. then a couple of years before the divorce we realised that we didn't really know each other at all. Too many details to go into here, but suffice to say I wonder if we ever do find our true soulmate.

Still, not to late to start looking again!

[HARLEY GIRL]

i do believe in having a soul mate. but over years people do change, the man you marry 10 years from now might not be the same person ( or visa versa). love is what your willing to settle for, for instance, can you settle for a man even though he has bad habbits and lots of baggage, even though you love him could you settle for him? or would you wait for some one better to come along? grace i do under stand where your coming from temptation and sex is every where these days. and a relationship is hard. alot of people think a soul mate is someone you can be with and every thing is perfect. it's more realistic lots of give and take, and hard times. but if you can get through lifes ups and downs as a team it only makes yall a stronger and closer couple.

[purpose]

I strongly believe in the notion of a soul-mate, although as far as I am concerned, he/she does not need to be your 'life' partner.

I know I have found my soul-mate... we are deeply connected by the same feelings and thoughts. I am not married to my soul-mate and neither would I wish to be. Our relationship goes much deeper than conventional love and friendship and I know I will never experience that level of feeling with anyone else, ever.