Guy problems - what to do?

[amazingtoxic]

I have met a guy, who, if I wrote down what I wanted in a guy, would probably meet most of the criteria. He is very good looking, sweet, kind, romantic, wants to settle down. So how come I don't feel interested? I just feel a little uncomfortable when he is around, he is very cuddly and loves kissing, maybe thats putting me off.

I have never dated someone that I have havent been friends with first, maybe that's my problem - I have seriously fancied my past relationships before getting involved and this is a random guy I have never met before.

Or maybe, it is because I kind of fancy a guy I am personal training, he is getting married but is so nice, maybe that is putting me off my guy - because the feeling is different.

Oh I am so confused.

[China Doll]

Perhaps you prefer the thrill of the chase? Once you know you can have them then the initial attraction becomes boring. (I know I've been guilty of that in the past.) That would explain why you like the one who's getting married and you can't have. Forbidden fruit and all that. The other guy wants to settle and have a deep and meaningful and maybe you're just not ready for all that?

[RATTER15]

It takes a bit more than a tick list to find the right person unfortunately, lol

Anyway, you are not my personal trainer and i'm already spoken for.

[Eve]

If it doesn't feel right then it probably isn't. I know how you feel, there are so many guys who fit my "criteria" on paper so to speak and are just what I think i'm looking for but it just doesn't feel right.

It frustrates me as the ones who do feel right are what i'm trying to stay away from.

If you like the guy get to know him as mates and deal with what makes you feel uncomfortable with him gently. You knows what may happen once you get to know him.

As for the guy who's getting married, hard as it may be, forget about him and maybe let him get another personal trainer if it's hard. It could you moving on and finding someone free and single who will adore you and be all yours

xxx

[makemesmile]

As China Doll says, sometimes we don't want the safe option, there's more excitement in what we shouldn't want. But, if you don't go weak in the knees or whatever in his presence, then maybe he's just not the one for you. We can't choose who we should fall for, no matter how right they may seem.

If the spark ain't there, it ain't there.