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It's OK Peterp - the sensible executors are perfectly happy for a particular executor to have the item. As I said in my earlier post, two of them were actually arguing 'you have it', 'no you have it'! There's no question of selling the item. There's absolutely no dispute over inheritance. This is all about bully-boy taking decisions without consulting the other three executors, and nothing more.
The latest is that, despite the solicitor saying no need (because the estate is below the IHT threshold - in this case £650k) he has taken it upon himself to get two valuations for the house (at £200 each) which will of course come out of the estate. He is simply wasting money. The solicitor has even told him that there's a lot the executors can do themselves to save legal costs but he's having none of it. I despair, I really despair.