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Where Should We Draw The Line ?
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With the almost total embargo on gestures of affection brought upon society by militant misandrists, it occurred to me this morning that I should possibly become "outraged" when addressed as "luv" by female shop assistants, waitresses, checkout operators, etc (yes it happened to me this morning, hence my post here).
Or is it only members of the female gender who are allowed to exercise such extreme displays of touchiness?
Or is it only members of the female gender who are allowed to exercise such extreme displays of touchiness?
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The problem with UK English is there is no generic term for addressing males and females. In North America its normal to say 'Sir' or 'Maam' and of course on the Continent Madame/ Monsieur etc. Here saying 'Thanks Mr. or Thanks Mrs. is almost derogatory.
15:54 Wed 17th Nov 2021
this is nothing to do with gestures but when I was in America I was 40 years old - I was buying 2 big bottles of vodka and the Indian lady refused to serve me as I was under-age. Oh how I laughed. She actually sent for the manager who passed me no problemo. Friend laughed and said the Indian lady musta had cataracts so should have went to an optician.
I have to confess I do say Luv - I really can't end "Thanks without the love". I just be glad to get a pleasant assistant.
I have to confess I do say Luv - I really can't end "Thanks without the love". I just be glad to get a pleasant assistant.
I think this comes under the wider umbrella of intention - if someone is clearly being friendly and using a local term of affection, it would be churlish to take offence.
That said, when someone probably younger than me uses the term 'young man' in a disrespectful way, then I do take offence.
It's all about intention, and we can all take a little time to read that in others.
That said, when someone probably younger than me uses the term 'young man' in a disrespectful way, then I do take offence.
It's all about intention, and we can all take a little time to read that in others.
Like Bookbinder I am Yorkshire born and bred and 'luv' is a completely normal form of address. It applies to males and females impartially and is used equally by both genders (am I allowed to say that these days? Perhaps I should say 'by everyone'.)
Anyone expressing touchiness at being so addressed would face a lot of raised eyebrows and immediate assumptions of being 'snotty-nosed' (and other equivalents) and be classed as a beyond-the-pale southerner - probably from London.
I'm not too keen on the 'Bless', which now seems to follow me around; but it's meant as concern for and appreciation of my advancing years and so I grit my teeth and accept it as well-meaning. :)
Anyone expressing touchiness at being so addressed would face a lot of raised eyebrows and immediate assumptions of being 'snotty-nosed' (and other equivalents) and be classed as a beyond-the-pale southerner - probably from London.
I'm not too keen on the 'Bless', which now seems to follow me around; but it's meant as concern for and appreciation of my advancing years and so I grit my teeth and accept it as well-meaning. :)