So I Came Up With A Suggestion

[Redhelen72]

To himself about his mother.
She kept complaining that we are too far away!
However there is no way we could afford to buy or even rent a reasonable sized home near her.
There are however retirement apartments available to rent in her town for £900.
So I suggested that she move in there and we pay for it and we move into her house obviously redecorating and with our own stuff.
What do you think of this suggestion it seems a win win don’t you think

[JJ109]

Oh dear!

But I suppose only you know how your mil would react. Mine would have a baby blue fit, "kicking her out of her own house"!!

Still you should no better than me re the character of your mil!

[ducksie]

it would always be 'her' house (was that OH's growing up home?) not the best idea, what if she didn't like the apartments or kept telling ye and others, my DiL pushed me out of my own home

[ducksie]

^^ snap with jj109 - great minds think alike

I seen my niece move into her hubby's growing up house, bad idea, they sold it and bought their own . was full of his family stuff and she couldn't put her print on it

[Redhelen72]

She can barely get up the stairs anymore.
Himself partially grew up in it- they previously owned a hotel.
The house will eventually belong to himself.
Not talking about this year but maybe a few years down the line, I can work from wherever.

[Zacs-Master]

I think you know what her reaction will be. Don’t you?

[Redhelen72]

I know what your saying but prices in north Norfolk are far too high 1300 a month for a 2 bedroom apartment

[Redhelen72]

It was just an idea

[ducksie]

if OH could work on her and make her think it is 'her' decision and she offers it to him - then, i dunno the law in UK but you could possible avoid paying inheritance tax when he gets it then ...maybe.
Start by saying she needs to downsize, she not getting the benefit of all the house - missing out on going upstairs etc.,

[MissTerious2]

Good idea!
Come and live in Norfolk!

However, do you want to be on call all the time!!

[Rosetta]

She would hate it and use every aspect of it as a stick to beat you imo

[Zacs-Master]

Red knows that.

[Redhelen72]

I was trying to come up with a solution himself admitted last night that he is worried about her especially after the mess we found last week.

[Old_Geezer]

You only find out if you suggest it. Wear armour when you do though as I doubt telling someone they can move out of their house to some oldies apartment so you can move in, is likely to be that popular. If someone suggested it to me I may be looking to change my will.

[Redhelen72]

I was only suggesting it because it’s obvious that she can no longer cope with living in a house.

[Redhelen72]

I would be giving up a lot more than she would OG

[MissTerious2]

Helen, seriously keep some mileage between you. Otherwise your lives will be ruined. She will totally disrupt your lifestyle. Take it from me. My mother had a similar personality.

[Redhelen72]

We have literally just had a phone call from her saying she has fallen again

[MissTerious2]

Has she got people a zila le who can help?

[MissTerious2]

A zila le? No idea what happened!

[MissTerious2]

Nearby!