fair enough.
i don't agree that i do that, however i know that things can sound that way when written down - my intention is to challenge someones thinking if i believe it is unfair or wrong - perhaps i should start to rephrase things in a nicer tone
whenever i do challenge someones opinion it is usually because i feel they have said something wrong, selfish, offensive, rude, out of order etc - i don't just pick on people for the sake of it
if i intended to hurt someones feeling there would be no ambiguity about it - it is blatanly clear - but people have accused me of deliberate cruelty where non was intended
i know what you mean about drinking though - perhaps we should start having AA meetings - ABers Anonymous... "my name is joko and i'm an aber. one post and i was hooked..." lol