Power, is the word dot.
However small, the power to be able to disrupt. After all, it can all start off with minor issues, but if allowed to take a hold, will do more damage. Outsiders might look in and laugh at such a suggestion, but it does seem as if the chief instigator to all this is endeavouring for his/her "perfect" world. Sitting there, looking in at all the havoc and upset they are causing, makes them in their own little space, feel BIG.
They are striving to get control. The only way is through an anonymous site like this is. So inferior are they in their life, that this is the only means of achieving any near that goal.