Making friends

[mgba_78]

We are moving soon about 120miles away from where we live at the min and i am homesick already..How do you make friends when you are 28 where do u find them?

[JanineG]

Local pubs is always a good one - get your face known locally, people will soon recognise you from the pub and, as the drinks flow you'll no doubt get into a bit of banter with the locals. Also, I assume you'll also be changing jobs so you're sure to make new friends there too.

Where are you moving to?

[efc]

I moved away from my home town 8 years ago. New job, new home etc. Made a lot of friends through my new job and even when people leave the company they have continued to keep in touch and we go out regularly.
However, I am feeling very homesick and considering moving back! Probably not what you wanted to hear lol!

[mgba_78]

We are moving to Newark in Nottinghamshire. I tried to get transferred with my current job but no positions available. So that will be another thing i need to do!

[CheekyChops]

When I moved in on my own, I got a part-time job in my local corner shop (just 12 hours per week). I got to know all my neighbours in the area and all my newest friends either work in the shop or are/were customers!

We go to the local pub once a week, have been doing so for the last year or so and now I know all the regulars in there as well.

I do have a full time job as well, but everyone there is either married and doesn't go our or they live miles away. The shop definatley did the trick for me - I wouldn't know a soul in my local area if I hadn't worked there.

[pussnboots]

My daughter lives in Nottinghamshire, she was brought up in Lancashire. She made friends from her job plus her boyfriend who she met at uni came from the area, I'll get her to give you a ring.

[good-arras]

I've done this several times and unless you happen to end up working somewhere with a good crowd in the same sort of age group it's the local boozer or moving back home!

[chitchat]

I have always moved around due to my Dad being in the forces and then I was in them myself for 15 years. Its amazing how you will adapt. We have just moved half way around the world and didnt know anyone - but people generally make you feel welcome where ever you are. I am sure you find the same. Once you find work you'll start making loads of friends but ask you new neighbours for all the local info etc. Good luck with move.

[JOEYGREEN]

I know a few people in Newark. It's a good place. You're sure to meet some lovely people there. I definitely think that the pubs are the best way to meet people. Not just in Newark, you could visit pubs in the surrounding area. I'm sure you'll be fine. Good luck

[Bev2007]

Hello, Im in Newark!!

Quite right about the pub and there are lots of clubs to join depending on your interests. You could also join a social group like SPICE, see http://www.spiceeastmids.com/ if you want some platonic company, from paragliding to murder mysteries.

And if that is still too old-fartish there is a good student population in Lincoln 20min drive away (direct train too) that you could tap into.

[mgba_78]

Thanks guys, i think also aswell because we are moving to a small village (Collingham) rather than a towm makes me a bit nervous too. I am sure i will get to know ppl when i take the kids to school. It's just about taking the 1st steps i guess.

Becca x

[hartley]

Regularly attending a pub quiz is a good way of meeting people. Me and my girlfirend started going to the weekly pub quiz at our local, the same people sit in the same places every week and you always end up chatting when you swap answer sheets or arguing about answers. We've met some really nice people.
I think its all about going to the same places regularly, whether it be the pub, local shop, church, bus stop, crack den, whatever. And don't be afraid to smile and chat, I think that people are generally pleasant and everyone likes to meet new people.