fed up

[tradey]

anyone else just as fed up as i am feeling today,well ive been feeling like this for months now,im fed up with everything and everybody,hubby works all the time 18yr old doesnt do a thing in the house or help with her sister whos 3 and a half.at the min a just feel like a slave.i cant sleep,and for the last week ive had a banging headache,got up this morning and ive got a lump on my head,very sore,to sum it up i cant get into the docotrs yet again,anyone else feel just like me today.

[raysparx1]

You need a bit of excitement, like a lover, I am on my way.


Seriously tradey, you sound like you need a holiday, or a little bit of time for you, talk to your hubby about how you feel, take care, Ray xx

[rugeleyboy]

stand firm and tell the 18 yr old to help you out or go and get a job............... simple as!!!!!

i have had a bad head all week aswell, must be something in the air!!.

as ray for a head rub!!! :�)

[rugeleyboy]

*ask*

[smudge]

I'm sure we all feel like you do from time tradey!

I've been fed up with all this constant rain, although the sun's just popped out, so I can get out into the garden, pot up some plants & listen to the birds! I went to the hairdresser's on Monday which cheered me up too!

As Ray says, you need a bit of excitement, so maybe the next time your husband's not working you can go out together & do something a bit different.

Chin up. -x-

[smudge]

*from time to time!

[rasmus]

Oh Tradey,i absolutely feel the same as you.Ditto everything you`ve said.I also feel like a slave/skivvy at work.I`ve had depression lately and joined this site to make new friends etc.One tuesday afternoon i joined in a post and made my feelings clear but then someone posted back to me accussing me of something that hadn`t even entered my head.I was so upset.I had to change my user name.Sometimes its good to seek sympathy/empathy on here but sometimes you get kicked while you`re down.Chin up,hope you feel better soon.xxxx

[Doc Spock]

I felt a bit like this last week. I got a piece of paper for the mrs and one for me and asked her to write down 5 things she had done before and would like to do again, and 5 things never done but want to.
I do, however, regret the sex in a hammock suggestion.

[smudge]

I know the feeling rasmus, but you shouldn't give in & have to change your user name. Just try to rise above it in the future - easier said than done, I know!

Smudge was my dear little cat's name & I'm sticking to it!

Chin up & hope things improve for you soon too. -x-

[bigmamma]

Hope you feel a bit brighter soon , this may make you feel a bit better :-)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sfThEk5ejOM

[tradey]

thanks for that raysparx1 you made my day.were going away in august and i cant wait its the only time i get to have time for me and i make the most of it too.i understand why my hubby is working and doing as much overtime as he can,his work is shutting down at xmas so hes trying to get as much money for us as he can.
my daughter does go college and does work,but on her day off all she does is stay in bed,ive had so many fights regards to her not doing anything,but she still does nothing,she has taken her sister out twice and coz she played up hasnt again,so for the last 4mths ive not been doing anything for her,ie no washing ironing but still no help.me and my hubby do get out,wed be lost id my mum didnt sit his never does,never even offers,im just fed up with alot of things and sometimes i feel like going out of the door and not coming back but that would solve nothing. thankyou to you all for the advice and im glad its not just me feeling like this xx

[raysparx1]

hi tradey you do need a bit of time for just you, you would feel a bit better even just going for a coffee in a little cafe,just for an hour or so, or a walk along a canal bank, looking at the barges, or just take a flask of coffe, a sarnie, get a magazine and sit in the local park, it will give you a real boost, you sound very tired, hope you feel a bit better soon, Ray xx

[curly~sue]

With all due respect tradey, I can see where you daughter is coming from. If she is at college and work all week it's understandable that she wouldn't want to be looking after the little one on her day off. I know she's a lot older than the little one but as you say she's doing all her own chores too. Don't try and make her feel guilty for lazing in bed on her day off, teenagers need a lot more sleep than us biggies.

I really don't want to appear rude but the little one is YOUR little one so cut the elder one a bit of slack. It sounds like you're very tired like raysparx said. Try if you can to make a bit of time for yourself and talk to your hubby about how your feeling. I hope evrything's OK at the doctors when you get in. c~s x

[raysparx1]

Hello tradey I am back again, grab a coffee or a cup of tea, sit down, relax and enjoy this beautiful piece of music.



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ofDWpE6HSTo

[Doublehard]

You need a pick me-up, have a laugh at some of the content on MrCrip's Blog - its highly comical!

[tradey]

raysparx1 thankyou for that it was nice of you,tomoz im going to have a nice walk to the park and just sit there on my own and enjoy the peace thankyou for you help
curlysue as for doing her own chores no she doesnt she might every now and again sweep her floor as for washing she goes to her cousins and she does it for her.my daughter should want to help me out,take her to the shops but shes lazy and does nothing and she wonders why my little one is the way she is with her,mind my french she doesn f*ck all with her ok she goes college and works now and again,but come on curlysue when i was younger i used to love taking my bro out and showing him off thanks everyone,i just hope i can pull myself out of this xx

[cointreau]

I agree with curly~sue and you need to look after your daughter's needs very seriously; she is at a very vulnerable age and needs your support rather than criticism. It is universally recognised that lying in bed is a sign of depression rather than laziness (in many cases) and I think you need to realise that your own depression may be eroding the happiness of the whole family.

[tradey]

firstly can i say this my 18yr old wants to be treated like an adult then i think she should start acting like one.i dont want her to be a bloody mother to her sister god do you not understand why im coming from,i want her to play with her sister take her to the park you know like other brothers and sisters do god im not asking too much at all,all i want is abit of help from her.all i get is im an adult well as far as im concerned she needs to start acting like one.cointreau my daughter is not dippressed at all.well anyway today is a day for me,for once im putting me first and not the others cheers x