Speach theropy - sorry, probs uploadin question!!!

[Lorzy Lor]

Hi, when I picked my son up from nursery this avo his teacher said she wanted to get him speach theropy! She said it was due to him not following instruction, at all. 

I don't get this as he follows instructions at home no problem, and has a massive vocabulary. He's a chatter box, people often comment how well he speaks. 

The teacher told me this as I was picking him up, in front of him and other parents and children! I wasn't able to question her further as it wasn't the time! 

Can anyone give me any advise or tips dealing with this? I am going to spk with the teacher tmrw when I drop him off. I have booked him in at the doctors for a hearing test, just to see if that shows anything? 

Am I doing something wrong? Is there anything I can do to help him?  

Any advice much appreciated! 

Thanks

[sara3]

how he speaks and how he follows instructions are not connected. go and have a quiet word with her, and tell her if she has any other "issues" she should be more discreet.

[boxtops]

How old is he - do you still see a health visitor?

[ladyalex]

Whilst I totally agree that the teacher should have spoken to you in private about this, giving you reasons for her concern etc, maybe you should follow it up , just for your own satisfaction if for nothing else.
What's the downside in having a Speech Therapy assessment (if you can get one) ?
If it turns out that there's no problem, that's fine. If it turns out that the teacher is correct (sounds unlikely, but who knows), you've taken the opportunity to have any problems sorted out at an early stage.
If you still have a health visitor, and they certainly used to follow up children until they were aged 5, she/he will be able to do a referral for you. Give the H V a ring and explain what has happened, or speak to the GP at the hearing test.
All the best, I'm sure all will be well .
Some teachers just forget that they're not always dealing with small children...

[Lorzy Lor]

He's 3, we haven't seen a health visitor, we moved in dec, haven't heard from them! Fingers crossed the doc will take me seriously on thurs! Also will get to the bottom of it tmrw!

[ladyalex]

It's your chance to get a HV when you go to the doc .(If you want one !)
Also, if you want a referral to Speech therapy, he is obliged to refer. Stick to your guns if you have decided to go down this road.
Good luck with the teacher tomorrow......try to be calm, though this is easier said than done.
Also try to separate the two issues you have with her.....
a) Does your son have a speech/language problem ?
What evidence does she have for this ?
How does she suggest that you work together on any problem ?

and b) A throwaway remark in front of other parents and children is not an acceptable way of communicating what she presumably thought was a significant problem. I think I might want an apology for that and if one was not forthcoming, I might complain to her superior.
I also think I'd deal with the issues in that order too. Try to be as 'reasonable' as you can....it should help you and with any luck get under her skin.
(Sorry, I do have a mischievous streak and get really annoyed when so-called professional people mess up.)

[Kassee]

Very unprofessional. But this isn't a teacher, who I am sure would be more professional in her approach, and speak to you away from other parents, and away from your own little boy overhearing. This is probably a nursery nurse, and I would be upset that she did not speak to me in a more professional way, and I would say that to her.

Your health visitor or GP would be the best place to go for any advice. I would think that the nursery nurse is probably not correct. I think that there is a shortage of speech therapists and that waiting lists are very long, but the health visitor/GP will give you advice and a referral if they think it is necessary.

Your little boy is probably just a little shy and taking a while to settle in.

[tigwig]

Hey Kassee I'm a nursery nurse and I'm not unprofessional like this. You make it sound like it's not a worthy career. It took me 3 yrs to qualify its not a dead end job you know (although you would think that with the pay).
Lorzy Lor like others have said you need further clarification, in private, as to what she means. Is she saying he doesn't talk properly or doesn't listen? Also I would tell her that next time she informs you of any possible problem that could she do it when no one else is present.

[Kassee]

Sorry didn't mean to insult "nursery nurses", I am one myself. I have worked in nursery, school and playschools. I just believe most schools would behave much more professionally when discussing individual children. I think there are good and poor nurseries and pre-schools esp in dealing with issues like this - ie confidentiality and tact