I've lost the one i love...

[Heartbroken]

First i'll apologise because i think this will be a rather long post!! long story but around 18 months ago i was single and not really looking for anyone then i met someone i liked but as we both worked for the same company tried to dismiss my feelings for him. I'd been single for 3/4 months and this guy was just coming out of a relationship he'd been in for 9 years, we got on so well he would tell me about his situation without giving too much away but basically i knew he fancied me. Anyway, he split up with his girlfriend and literally chased me until he got me and we started seeing each other. This guy romanced me and i felt so special that he would buy me flowers, chocolates and treat me with respect - it was the fairytale i'd been waiting for and couldn't believe it was happening to me. Anyway, last christmas he asked if he could meet my daughter who was then 7 (From a previous relationship) and i agreed, they got on famously and after a few weeks he moved in with us, i thought i had finally got the family unit i had so longed for. Our relationship to me was the best thing ever and we talked about marriage and children and he told me he loved me i was the best thing to ever happen to him etc.

He has quite a busy social life going to football and seeing his mates but i put up with this because i loved him so much, our love life was fantastic and i couldn't have asked for more. Don't get me wrong, we did argue and had some bad times like any relationship but the weekend before last he seemed down and when i confronted him he told me he loved me to bits but like a brother or sister and not 'like that' i am absolutely devastated and so is my daughter, i can't believe i've left myself wide open and he's messed up mine and my little girls lives this way it just seems totally unfair. We were the best of friends and now it's so difficult that he's just no longer here.

[singledad]

i think you left yourself too open, too soon... and being a typical bloke, he took advantage and what he said was just a way of getting out of the situation. Next time hold 50% back and control the situation. from a single parent dad