I don't mind very short hair as long as it's sort of scruffy and wispy. I know what you mean though Pasta. There is a certain short hairstyle that is uniform for older ladies, layered neatly into the back of the neck with sort of triangles in front of the ears, really neat and tidy and very old looking. I tried longer last winter as I always used to have long hair, but it looked awful. Really short and feathery is my best bet. Some older women look gorgeous with long hair, e.g. Twiggy - but she would look gorgeous bald.