Assessment For Suitability For Hip Replacement...

[sandyRoe]

I'll be going with someone later today for this. Are there any questions we should ask?

[Peter Pedant]

If it goes wrong I agree you are stuck

however - having had an older partial replacement
it is completely painless, I have a mobile joint
and the patient acceptability/satisfaction score for hip replacement is 97%
just about everyone says it is life changing

[woofgang]

i agree PP and sandy....but if you choose to do it yourself then whatever happens, you chose it....but how will she feel if you persuade her and it goes wrong? How will you feel?

[sandyRoe]

The situation I'm in, of being a carer, is grinding me down. She was dumped on me by her daughters and I'm mug enough to put up with it. It's made me depressed and recently I think that depression has taken a darker hue. Over the last month or so I've had 'flashbacks'. These aren't the traumatic things I've seen but more the kind of wince making memory that comes after a hard nights drinking when you remember what you've done.
To use a line from Estragon: I can't go on.

[Peter Pedant]

in that case chain her to the Hospital bed and say
this is where you have your hip replaced my dear

[anneasquith]

sandy, im so sorry to hear about ' the flashbacks' must be very distressing. I wonder if they may put you in a '' fragile'' position.? ( I hope that makes sense ) are you now her sole carer ?

[sandyRoe]

Yes, I'm her sole carer.

[anneasquith]

and the daughters ? any point in me stating the obvious re your own well being.?

[wolf63]

Sandy - looking on the bright side, you've got us.

I can fully empathise with your quote, I have arrived at that point by a different route.

From snippets of your situation that you have mentioned in other posts it is clear to an outsider that you have to put your own health and happiness to the fore.

CAB, GP or Social Work depts are some of your options.

Good luck.

Wolf x

[pixie373]

Sandy, you must look after yourself. Can you get carers in for her? She might get financial help towards it. Please don't make yourself ill.

[sandyRoe]

Thank you all for the kind replies. I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself and hope I'll be a bit brighter in the morning.

[pixie373]

It sounds a little more than that. I hope you do feel better in the morning. Let us know xx

[anneasquith]

take care .

[cupotee2]

Don't know where you live Sandy but in my part of the country the wait is after seeing the consultant is 18 weeks max.

I had mine done 7 years ago with an Epidural and thoroughly recommend it that way.

Chanel 5 I could have written your positive post too. Well worth having done and slightly easier to recover than from a knee replacement.

I have 5 replacement joints and each one been worth it.

I wish you well Sandy.

[woofgang]

Oh sandy.......but getting her through a hip replacement won't change your circumstances you know.......I agree with what wolf and others have said, that its time to shift some of the burden before you sink entirely and are no use to her, yourself, or anyone else.

[pixie373]

How are you today, sandy? I'm sorry for sounding bossy yesterday. It doesn't read how i meant it xx

[sandyRoe]

Pixie, I didn't read your posts as being bossy or critical. I know the hip replacement won't change everything but at least if she had her mobility back we could get out for a walk.

[pixie373]

Good. Look after yourself xx