std?

[jelly-baby]

I met a guy one month ago. I have seen him a few times and we have had sex three times. The last time was sunday and on monday he had symptoms of an STD, he told me about it and went to a clinic Tues who have diagnosed NSU but possibly gonorrhoea. He says he was checked at the clinic a couple of months ago when he split with his ex and had a one-night-stand, and the tests were clear. He says i am the first girl he has slept with since then he thinks he got it from me!

I split with my ex six months ago and have had four other sexual partners since then (used condoms with all except current guy). He knows about them.

He has now gone very distant with me. I have been to the clinic today but neither of us know the results til next friday. I have no symptoms at all. He is convinced he got it from me.

Just wondering about anyone elses experiences with STD's really.

Not sure if he is just annoyed about it all coz he's in pain, or if he just thinks im a slapper now! He knew about the other men before he slept with me and did not mention condoms (nor did i). Help!

[RavenD]

I think STD's in women are less noticable due to their genetalia as with men, they look at their genitals quite a lot and so know straight away if something is wrong. You may have carried this without knowing it or he might have already been infected and the virus layed dormant and only now has surfaced.

[kazminx]

oh jelly-baby, how awful. ive got no experience of this and im sorry i cant give any advise but i feel very sorry for you both. take care :)

[Goodsoulette]

If you are right for each other you can work past a sexually transmitted disease. Its not a nice thing to have, catch or give someone but its not a huge deal, you can get it treated (in most cases).
You should really, really think about protecting yourself better, I seriously cannot believe that anyone would entertain having sex with a new partner without using a condom, hopefully this is a sorry lesson you have learned.

Boys are very protective about their willies and if you have passed something on I bet he isnt going to be impressed but his immediate reaction is going to be to pass the blame onto you. Are you certain he had a test before? He could just be saying that so you take the fall. At least you are sorting your sexual health out.

[jelly-baby]

Thanks for your replies.

Ward_minster - I think you're right, didnt occur to me til you said that but why would he not use a condom if he is so concerned about std's to be tested in the past? he said he often goes to the clinic every 12 months even if he is with the same partner

[CaptainDitch]

So......... Thats 5 guys in six months then?
You dont hang around do you eh??

Have to agree though. I too think that he's probably lying about this one?!
I mean...... If he's been for test(s) before......... Then he's probably been putting it about a bit himself...?!!
Or maybe, he's just using it as an excuse to bail out on you??
So, as said above, you are probably just another "Conquest" i'm afraid jelly-baby?!
Maybe you should just put it down to experience??

Either way.......... I do hope you are "Clear" and that things work out for you for the best?!!

(5 guys in 6 months though.!! ........Love it.!!!)

;o)

[unruliejulie]

i agree with ward~Minter seems like hes trying to convince you how safe he is just a little bit too much. If you get a scare like that, you don't put yourself through it all again, so quickly at least. You would thank your lucky stars and be extra careful in future. Would i be right in thinking though, that these sort of things can lie dormant for ages without showing any symptoms?

[noxlumos]

hope everything is ok for you but he's lying through his teeth and no-one in their right minds has unprotected sex with someone they've only known a month, whatever posessed you?

[teag1rl]

How come he got his results in 2 days and you've got to wait over a week? Maybe he hasn't been to clinic at all and he's just come up with a plain evil way to finish things with you. I don't know for sure, but I'm sure he'd have to wait longer for results? Maybe someone else here can give definitive answer on that.
I really hope you're OK x

[Veggibear]

I agree with the previous posts. He is probably worried about what he is going to say when your results come back saying you are perfectly ok. Silly man ;-)

You might want to wait a bit longer before jumping into bed with the next guy, and perhaps don't tell them about your past sex life - it really is none of their business.

[jelly-baby]

To be honest, I could have waited six months and one of us could still have had something, so telling me to wait longer is not much help.

He only got the result for NSU, which is done straight away. He has to wait for all the others like I do.

If I already had something, it was from my ex, who obviously cheated on me. I knew my current guy had been tested recently so assumed we were both ok.

Both of our tests may still come back negative anyway. He could just have a urine infection.

I will let you know next Friday

[Goodsoulette]

Oh hang on they havent diagnosed him with an actual std. NSU for a guy is abit like having cystitis I think, so they have probably told him its a possibility. NSU is not an STD (its just a symptom, it means non specific urethritis). Sounds like he ahs jumped the gun a bit accusing you anyway.

[angel-cake]

that's what i thought goodsoulette

isnt NSU the symptom of an STD though? or can you have NSU without actually having an STD?

[Goodsoulette]

You can have it without having an std, although I think it is a symptom of chlamydia and gonnorhoea. Just having lots of sex could cause it. So I reckon they have probably told him that he has this cause it hurts to wee, but are waiting to hear if he has something more serious.