I am a hearing person, but teach Deaf Awareness as part of my job role. There are two different types of deafness. There is Deaf and deaf.
Deaf people (identified by the use of the upper case �D�) are those people that identify themselves as a cultural and linguistic minority, as opposed to having a medical disadvantage. Those people that describe themselves in this way, will have a positive view of their deafness. Deaf people who share this culture are proud to be part of the Deaf Community, have a strong Deaf identity and use British Sign Language (BSL) as their first or preferred means of communication. Allegiance to the Deaf Community is considered more important than the level of hearing loss.
deaf people (identified by the use of the lower case �d�) is the general term used to describe a deaf person outside of the Deaf community. They will probably be severely or profoundly deaf, and do not usually use BSL as their preferred means of communication. They choose to remain outside of the Deaf Community and usually identify more with the hearing world.
What you may be experiencing is a Deaf person's attitude to a deaf person, i.e. a deaf person trying to identify more with the hearing world by using a hearing aid/cochlear implant or whatever.
The usual school of thought, is that if you are deaf, regardless of any amplification/hearing device that you may use, you are still deaf.
Just for the record, the usual 'P.C.' term for someone who has lost all, or virtually all of their hearing is profoundly deaf. If they also have no speech, they are literally that, Deaf without speech (don't ever use the term Deaf and Dumb or Stone Deaf)
Hope that helps.