legal age for children to share bedroom

[10071969]

hi everyone have just joined ? i need a question answering my son is 7yrs old and sleeps with me his mum he has lots of health problems from sleep apnea, muscle weakness top half of his body, sensory behaviour ,ashma,night terrors and finally socolious i am in a delema housing assocation will not move me and council have got me on low banding and could wait up 2 10yrs to be rehoused i am a nurse and this is key worker property and single mum of 3 have emailed gordon brown and minster of housing no reponse???? this is how we look after our nhs staff ive been a nurse for 14yrs i have an apeal coming up and need as much info as possible t fight my case any tips out there have help from mp i am stressed out

[4getmenot]

Until you are homeless they dont do much I;m afraid. My mate is getting chucked out of rented house because she cant afford it, and council will not help she is now having to move back to her mums and then be housed wher she lives. But my mate couldnt afford it, If you are working can you not rent?

[Ethel]

Regarding your question of bedroom sharing.

Children of opposite sex can share bedrooms until the youngest is 10.
However, if the 'overcrowding' is due to natural growth - you have more children or the children age, this is not considered overcrowding.

Your living room and kitchen (if large enough) is also taken into account when calculating whether or not you are overcrowded.

Fully explained here:

http://tinyurl.com/4qfgof

[unrulyjulie]

when i was applying for housing benefit, i was told that i only need one bedroom for my children even though one was 15 and the other was 4. The bloke from the council said that until my eldest was 16, they could share, those are the rules. (both boys not sure if the same applies for different sex)

[redcrx]

can you not privately rent and claim housing benefit for partt of the cost?

[10071969]

i do privately rent? this is key worker accomdation? unfortuantly i was in violent relatship hence my 3 children?

[redcrx]

i thought when you said housing association tht it meant you were already in HA accomodation, not private.

[10071969]

it the same thing ? i am with housing assocation but pay full rent / woman lives across the road in 3 bdroom townhouse and only 1 child were is it fair.

[Ethel]

Privately rent is to rent from a private landlord, not a housing association or the local council.

Is that an option for you? There are plenty of rental homes in the private sector.

[4getmenot]

but with housing association you usually find your own place through estate agents to rent and they help you out. Can you not do that? Thats what my friend does but she just cant afford her part now.

[4getmenot]

it isnt fair at all. My mates girl had to leave school and all her friends, I wanted them to turf foreigners out and move them to anothet town so she could stay :-)

[Ethel]

How old are your children and how many bedrooms do you have?

[10071969]

2 bedroom flat i have 17 and14 girls and 7 yr son i have 4 to 5 hrs sleep nightly sleep apnea loss of breath can kill

[4getmenot]

I;d try and rent a place on your income with a bit of help

[Ethel]

But having another bedroom won't stop the sleep apnoea, will it? You will still want to be with your son through the night - as you say, sleep apnoea can kill.

Lawfully your son can sleep in the same room as his sisters; or you or he could sleep in the lounge.

I think your son's health problems is the priority, and I can't see how an extra bedroom will help with that at all.

[10071969]

no it wont change is helth problem but it has affected me i am on antidepressents and stress being out of work for 3 mths its called sleep depravation ?????

[Ethel]

Sleep deprivation. Would you be happy for your son to sleep alone all night in his own room?

His muscle weakness must restrict his ability to move freely during the night, which will aggrave the sleep apnoea.

The children will be back to school soon and you can catch up on your sleep during the day.

Can't the child's father look after him for the occasional night to give you a break?

[10071969]

no his farther cannot when he used to beat up his mother??? its alright u saying sleep during the day yes thats all well and good but i have children to look after and home to keep clean and cook and work which i am unable to do ?which i love a nurse looking after others? my son has had this problem and untill now ,but sharing afectted me i am not fit for nothing i love my kids , i had 2 days with my mam who took him and i felt like a new woman after having 2 good nites sleep now i am back to normal sam situation i have had 8 hrs sleep in 2 days u tell me if u could cope

[mycats]

you sure you're a nurse? You cant even spell

[redcrx]

i think that the difficulties that you face will not be made any easier if you have a 5 bed mansion.

a 2 bed flat will be seen as suffice by the HA. As already said if you feel youd like a larger property then look at renting from a private landlord and getting help with payments through housing benefit.

There arent enough homes to give everyone what they think they require.

[4getmenot]

ethel is trying to help you we all are, please calm down and try not to wind yourself up. I agree with redcrx see if you can get a privately rented place if you feel you need bigger hime. You are lucky to have a roof over your head at all. Be patient it will all work out.