landj, I understand your fears completely. You usually need referral to a hospital dentist - by a current dentist - but if you go through your telephone directory, you'll find some local dental surgeries which offer intravenous sedation or other methods, for nervous parients. If you opt for the sedation, you'd have to pay anyway, but for me, it's well worth it, because I also hate going. Don't leave your tooth for much longer, however frightened you are, because it can lead to gum disease. Best of luck.