Love life after pregancy

[ronnie_07]

Hi all
This sounds like a really vain question but its something that really worries me and almost put me off having children but after pregnancy does everything go back to the way it was - ( and from a mans perspective - does it feel the same after your partner has had a baby)
Is it really as elastic as it seems!
I dont mean to sound vain I just have a real problem thinking about it and I have doen for years ...
Us women are all have our 'issues' dont we?
Thanks all

[andy-hughes]

My wife has given birth to three daughters, and I have no complaints in that area, none at all.

[footoo]

Sorry, not an answer.

My wife is 7 months gone and that is the question that is seriously keeping me awake at night.

I understand that the opportunities will be limited, the romance will reduce and we'll be tired and so on.

But....after I witness the "magic" of birth and it's horrific pain/blood, will i ever want to put it up there again? - sorry for the bluntness.

[andy-hughes]

Don't worry footoo - in the same way that every mother forgets the trauma of childbirth, which enables them to have more than one baby, you will forget the sights and sounds of birth, and your love-life will return to normal when you are both ready.

[redcrx]

footoo, just dont look at the messy end. :)

I have 2 children and my partner certainly doesnt complain about it feeling any different to him. It was worried like you and it was the first thing i asked when we had sex after they were born.

apparently its just as good as it was.

[sqad617]

All the above answers dwell on the positive aspect of normal return to function following childbirth and this is the most common outcome.

If this question has to be honestly answered, then the negatives although uncommon should also be considered.

[tigwig]

It does go back to normal yes! It might take a few days or so or maybe longer for some people. I can remember 'touching myself' down there feeling horrified a few hours after giving birth thinking oh my god it will never be right again!!
Thankfully I was wrong and my hubby says there is no difference either!
footoo as already suggested if you feel like that do not watch! I'm sure you will be ok though, the majority of men must feel the same but only a selfish few would let it affect them afterwards.

[ronnie_07]

Just for the record - I,m a woman - and i,m worried things wouldnt be the same afterwards - just worried my name may have given the wrong impression.
Thankyou for your honest answers as I did want posts from both male and females...