fatty bum bum

[4getmenot]

Is there any nice way of telling somebody they are overweight. My blokes neice is very large for her age she's 4 and eats alot. Its not her fault as the parents let her have up to 4 choc cake bars after her tea. I wouldnt tell her myself but just wondered if there was any nice way to tell them they feed her way too much. Her mums is quite large so I often wonder why she would feed her child like that when she is always going on fad diets.

[LoftyLottie]

Oh dear poor little girl. It so often is the case that fat children belong to fat parents. No nice way I'm afraid. Is it your place to mention it though. Are you on really good terms with her Mum? Difficult to advise 4get.

[NoMercy]

I'd just bite the bullet and ask the mother why she is allowing her child to binge on junk food which could give rise to a lifelong battle with weight/food....

[ummmm]

There was this woman who was morbidly obese who picked her kids up from school everyday and greeted them with a bar of chocolate instead of a hug.

[redcrx]

i think itd just stir up trouble if you said anything, unless specifically asked for your opinion. Parents dont like being told that their child is chubby (or skinny for that matter)

[craft1948]

I'd be subtle and say something innocuous like.....'doesn't it worry you that your child resembles a pig'

[another-view]

What about something like, "I'm not saying little Jenny is fat but when I told her it was chilly outside, she ran out with a spoon"?

[redcrx]

lol @AV

[4getmenot]

thats what I mean loftie I wouldnt mention it at all. Just had me thinking what other people would say if they had to. I am close to her mum but no mother wants to hear that they arent feeding their child right and I wouldnt want to see what the consequences were. The mum has split up with the dad recently so the child gets alot because they tend to give her things so she doesnt run to the other and say 'mummy/dady wouldnt let me have that' Its just a while ago they said they were starting her swimming to lose some weight and dance classes but they still let her have cake bars, icecream all after tea. She does eat her tea though and all her veggies

[4getmenot]

redcrx I wouldnt mention it anyway.

[ummmm]

lol craft...

My sister over fed her kids and it now looks like her daughter is going to have a life long struggle. Same as her mother..

[4getmenot]

she is such an adorable little girl too. But surely her mums knows she might get bullied at school

[TTG]

Suggest your neice joins you in a sporting activity or club involving a sport. It's a subtle hint.

[NoMercy]

Overfeeding a child junk food, thus exposing them to serious health problems in later life, is tantamount to cruelty. The child is at a very impressionable age and will likely carry her eating habits into adulthood. Best to nip it in the bud now...

[yogi-bear]

I would also be subtle and say something innocuous like..........."hey fatty bum bum
you sweet sugar dumpling, hey fatty bum bum, let me tell you something"......OR............"would you like to be a model when you grow up?..........then stop gorging yourself on cakes then!!!.".

Bless her.......at only 4, she is heading for a life of misery and bad health, if she does'nt lose some weight.....and soon :0 ( ( problem is Christmas next.......and we all over eat at christmas, dont we? )

[LoftyLottie]

My child went through a tubby stage and then turned into a long lean thing. Has the little girl always been overweight?

[yogi-bear]

Swimming, sports, gym and lots of walking will really help her, 4 get :0)

[4getmenot]

she asks for a cakebar after tea and they give her 2 and then she says can I have another and they say let that go down a bit and half hour later they give her another. As far as I know though she almost always comes home with a lunch box full of food. This isnt because she isnt hungry its because she spends her lunchtime talking lol

[4getmenot]

but will it yogi? She is an active 4 year old anyway but dont think this makes much difference if they filling her full of cakes

[redcrx]

Loftys right, most kids grow out and then up, out and then up. My 2 always get a rounder face just before a growth spurt.

[4getmenot]

loftie when I first saw her about 2 years ago she was cute, probably chubby but cute with it with big cheeks.