Depression Advice

[Maris1111]

My other half currently works for a now doomed area of the public sector and is on the final year of training with them, his training contract runs out next year and there is no prospect of a job continuing there and he has really enjoyed it. He is the biggest worrier about things anyway and he has been gradually becoming more depressed with the lack of morale in his work environment and concern about the future.

He is contantly snapping and getting angry with me then apologising, he talks about killing himself although I'm not thinking he'll do anything, although just recently when his computer lost a few hours of work I had to stop him hitting himself over the head with a glass bottle which was pretty scary. He read an article on male depression yesterday and identified with just about everything there.

I am insisting that he goes to the doctor but he is convinced that he won't get another job if depression goes on his medical record and I can't persuade him that that would be discrimination or anything otherwise. I don't know what to do next

[sandyRoe]

One of the problems with depression is that it is an illness which feeds on itself. When you are depressed you don't want to do anything. But the less you do the more depressed you get. And you come to feel there's no way out of it.
Some form of exercise is one way to break out of that cycle. But the first step in recovery might be to go and see your doctor.

[Maris1111]

nice I seem to have somehow sparked a religious debate. Thanks for the responses all

[squarebear]

"prayer is the best medicine to all illnesses."

Jeez, I'm glad you're not my doctor.

[ponjee]

medicine will help. but God has a more powerful medicine.
but we all have different beliefs.

[ummmm]

Yes we do so stop preaching at people...

[naomi24]

ponjee, prayer is most definitely not the best medicine for all illnesses. I know you're only 14, but please stop saying that. It's stupid, it's irresponsible and it could deter anyone suffering severe illness from seeking proper professional medical advice. Just stop!

[naomi24]

And God does not have a more powerful medicine either! Spout this rubbish all you like on R&S where people will tell you exactly what they think, but let's hear no more of it where people are asking for serious medical advice.

[ponjee]

okay, okay, okay. just calm down. mate! just trying to help. gosh!!!
maris, i hope your husband gets better. xxx

[ummmm]

You're not helping ponjee and people are going to start to get really annoyed with you.

[ponjee]

okay then.
Maris you should take your husband to see the doctors so they can give you some professional advice.
hows that, ummmm?

[ummmm]

Because you chat sh!t...

[naomi24]

No, you are not helping ponjee, and I won't calm down because you are being incredibly stupid and incredibly irresponsible. How would you feel if someone took your ridiculous advice and died because of it? Happy then? Jeepers!

[ponjee]

language man. and that doesnt make sense from what i asked.

[ummmm]

You asked why people will get annoyed with you. They will get annoyed with you because you chat sh!t...

[ponjee]

but im not talking s..t. you may think it is, but i don't.
but i will stop if you guys are really getting annoyed.

[ummmm]

Like Naomi says...if you want to talk about God and prayer...stay in R&S

[ponjee]

okay, i get it gosh. i will stop!

[naomi24]

Actually I don't swear, but you are talking sh1t and us guys are getting really annoyed, so stop right now!

If you want to talk about God come to R&S and spout on about whatever you like - but don't impose your nonsense on people who are seeking help because your advice is not helpful - it's harmful.

[RATTER15]

Ponjee, God bless you my child, ignore those dreadful sinners :-)

[naomi24]

Ratter, you're a rat!! Haaaa! :o)