FAO JAN1957

[WELSHYORKIE]

Jan, Whilst reading some of the stuff from the past week, I noticed your post advising of the loss of your husband. Can I please add my condolences to all the others posted at the time. I know what you must be going through and it will not be easy - I had fantastic support from ABers and work colleagues and that helped me tremendously. My heart goes out to you and your family.

Julian xx

[Jan1957]

Thank you Julian. I know you recently lost your Sylvia so know exactly how I am feeling. This weekend has been very difficult as I have been trying to sort out the funeral service ready for a visit from the vicar this afternoon. Don't know if you felt the same but at the moment I am still struggling to take it in. I keep thinking it's not real and expecting to wake up and find out it's all been a dream! Then it hits me that he won't be coming back. Still very hard, and although friends have been helping when they can I feel very alone at the moment. xx

[Bobbisox]

Jan when is the Funeral?
I didn't want to ask in a thread,
please take comfort from the fact that a whole lot of people will be with you from here on that day. lots of hugs Jan
Joy x

[Jan1957]

It's Friday Bobbi at 3.30. Still frantically trying to finish my reading, not that I'll be able to do it myself. My brother in law is going to read it out for me.

[WELSHYORKIE]

Jan, I didn't have a reading at Sylvia's funeral. Instead we chose 2 songs 1 when she was borne into the church which was my choice - The Rose and the boys chose Angel (from the film The City of Angels) when she was borne out of the church. We were advised against a reading or eulogy as it would have made things more intense than they already were. I did struggle at first to take it all in but in my case I think I realised that after a couple of days when Sylvia was in Critical Care that she would not get her transplant and that she would not pull through. I had about 4 or 5 days to get 'used to the idea' and so when the end came I suppose I was already greiving.

[Jan1957]

I feel much better now the vicar has been and the service is all sorted out. What a nice man he was, very kind and put me totally at ease. He helped me choose a hymn and a poem and I now know that Gary's funeral is in safe hands. It's like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Thanks again Julian. xx