Does this make me a selfish person?

[star57]

OK,so i recently went to the doctor Thursday and was put on medication for anxiety,me and both my sisters have a disorder,so today my sister asked me for 2 of my pills witch made me kinda upset cause i asked everyone not to tell her i got them,so right now i asked my mom how my sister knew i got them and my mom started yelling at me calling me a selfish a** hole saying that i don't need to be that way that i could share,is it wrong of me not to wanna give my pills away??

[Sir Alec]

No you are not being selfish. You are not supposed to share medication with anybody else, whether they are on the same tablets or not. The doctor will be monitoring your usage of the medication and if you give away some, you will run out too soon and the doctor will want to know why you need another prescription so soon. If they are tablets for anxiety and/or depressive illness, the doctor will be keeping a close eye on them. I know as I was once on Lithium!

[rowanwitch]

anyway pointless giving just a couple as most of them need to be taken regularly for at least a couple of weeks to have any effect. If thats what your family are like its no wonder you have problems I'd suggest you ease yourself away from them for a while just until you feel better able to cope with them

[boxtops]

Agree, it's completely wrong, nobody should take any medicine which is prescribed for someone else - what works for you could br risk for someone else. It's not a case of "sharing" - you need those meds, she doesn't - or if she needs her own, she too needs to go and see the doctor. Your mom is wrong on this occasion - you stand up for yourself otherwise you will have no medicine left, and as sir.alec says, it will behard for you to explain why you have given it away. Prescriptions cost money to the State, they are not for sharing out.

[Mosaic]

You know, with family like that I can see why you need pills. Could your problems be eased by investigating how to live away from them?
Next time, don't tell anyone including your mother about your medication. What they don't know they can't ask for.

[boxtops]

star, how old are you, are you old enough NOT to have to tell your mother about visits to the doctor?

[Mosaic]

I'm guessing from Star's username and posts that Star is a free adult who needs our support to gain confidence to deal with this family.

[boxtops]

Thanks mosaic, I didn't do a lookback until now - yes, I agree with you.

I know from my own experience that star's medical condition makes you feel very dependent on others for security and support, and it's easy to give in to others if they are demanding. Hang on in there star - we are glad to talk to you about this, especially those of us who've been where you are with your conditions. Hang on to every day and take your medication - it can and will get better, even if it takes a while.

[star57]

@boxtops I'm 25

[boxtops]

Thanks star, I had a look at your other posts, yes I see you are adult. I hope our posts are helping, even if only a little bit, at the moment.

[starone]

Star - I had a mother who read all my letters and threw away the ones she didn't want me to have. When I found out I made sure she didn't do it again. You must not let other people control your life. As the others have said it is your tablets and they are for you not someone else. It is the others who are selfish a**holes, not you. (good luck from another 'star')

[Prudie]

Star tell your mother that she is being the a-hole - if she's that concerned about your sister then she should be making sure she goes to the docs too. I'd also say that if you gave your sister your pills and they had an adverse reaction you could be held responsible. Try to find the strength to get through this without discussing with your mother, she is obviously not sympathetic.

[venator]

Besides, it could be very harmful to your sister to take something not prescribed for her - many drugs have bad effects if taken with other medication - her doctor will check on this when prescribing for her.

[joko]

i have had this happen to me...some people stupidly believe that anti depressants are happy pills and will get them high and have a buzz..and ive had people angry at me because i wont dish them out...even when i have explained they wont even notice them, as they work over time, not an instant fix...ridiculous
one idiot in particular i eventually gave him one because he was getting on my nerves keep asking ...he was gutted

unless your sister has had some kind of shock or something and could really use one there and then, then id tell her to go the dox and get her own