What do men really think of women who have sex with them easily?

[liquidspace]

I have recently ended a nearly 10 yr relationship. I'm 45 and am starting to think about dating. I joined an online dating site and some men on there have openly said they are just looking for sex. I don't know how I feel about this. Doesn't it make all parties just feel sad at the end of the day? I really don't know if this is the "norm" now?

[Ankou]

if you don't ask you don't get.

no, highly likely those men are married or just trying it on.

its only norm if its what you want too.

[China Doll]

It's less to do with what men think of it and what you think of yourself if you do it. Some people are happy with no strings attached sex or one night stands, others are not. It's a personal choice.

[craft1948]

The last man I dated it took me 3 months to get him into bed..............then the hardest part was getting him out of it again.

[Ankou]

if that was the hardest part, no wonder.

[chas2008]

you would be surprised how many women are doing exactly the same, this sounds awful but assuming the woman is fairly attractive they can pick & choose....and they do...

[craft1948]

lol @ ankou.............

[ummmm]

At 45 I would hope that both parties are mature enough to see it as it is....sex!

I was brought up in a male environment.....Double standards.

[andy-hughes]

Some men operate on what I have always called the 'Babe Ruth Principle'.

BR was a world-famous baseball player, who hit more home runs than any of his contemporaries. No problem, he hit more balls than them as well.

So if you apply that logic to asking women for sex, the alw of averages says, the more you ask, the more chances of getting a positive response.

Of course, this only works for men whose requirements for a suitable sexual partner are a vagina and a pulse.

So for them the internet is like a planet-sized nightclub without the tedium of chatting up a girl and buying her a drink - they can go straight to the question, and if its'a 'No', they can move on until someone says yes, as eventually they will.

So it's not the 'nrom' except for men who are simply looking for sex. If this is the majority of the men you are encountering, you are on the wrong site, so change it and looke elsewhere.

Internet Dating, no matter what you are looking for, is like the rest of the Internet - you have to be very selective, about what you pick up and explore, and what you ignore as unsuitable.

With experience, you will develop a 'filter' for what is going to be a potential man you;d like to date, and what is going to be a "Do you **** or what?".

Be patient, and know that there are loads of men out there who are not just looking for sexc, all you need is the patience to find one.

Like all the best endings, you need to kiss a lot of frogs before you find a prince - both those characters are alegorical, so don't panic about the 'kissing' bit.

Good luck!

[pa___ul3]

Some men like it, some men don't, if you're going to get into a relationship then you need to be yourself from the start, don't try being someone you're not just to fit into a norm.
A lot of men get bored once the sex is out of the way, it'll be easier for them to get bored if they haven't had a chance to get to know you first... unless, of course, you're looking for a relationship just for sex then you want to know if it's any good before you start giving up your free time!

[Old_Geezer]

They probably think of them as free and easy with their favours, and it will be something they consider when contemplating whether these women are suitable as a long term partner. Would you not think along much the same lines towards a man who is primarily looking for sex ?

If both parties are just looking for a quick sexual liaison then no one is hoodwinked and no one to take offense. If one is looking for something more they will probably want to look elsewhere. Instant gratification seeking has always gone on but in certain places there is no longer the need to try to hide it. Which is useful as it means you can avoid wasting your time with them if it isn't what you are looking for.

If you do go for instant gratification and it blossoms into something more then great, but I'd not go holding my breath if I were you.

[sara3]

double standards.. the man's a stud, the woman is easy.

it's not for me, but each to their own.. so long as both parties know the score.

[cazzz1975]

I normally knock them out first, it saves awkwardness and rejection ;)

[ummmm]

lol Cazzzz.....

Until the day that men can get pregnant, there will 'always' be double standards.

[Arksided]

'Marvellous !'
... or 'Geronimo' as Arnold J Rimmer would say. (Red Dwarf)

[Ankou]

conversely a friend of mine who tried dating websites for a bit, found lots of women looking for just 'sex'.

lo and behold when he noted his interestto them, they were very quick at sending through a price list.

[ummmm]

haha Ankou :-)

[joko]

i think gradually the attitudes towards this are becoming more equal.

old fashioned men(and women) are disgusted etc..but more modern thinkers understand its human nature and is not dirty and should not be viewed as some sin or sign of no self respect... etc

its just harmless fun between consenting adults when done with care

and most younger men i know would not judge a girl on it, but rather for her as a whole package

there used to be horror if a girl had more than 5 sexual partners in her life - some felt it must mean shes a ***...even if they were long term relationships....however if you break it down into simple equations, based on her age... it often works out at something like one bloke every 2 years...or something along those lines... hardly a lot... even 20 partners for a 40yr old woman is still only one a year... still not exactly a revolving door situation is it?
and it is this silly kneejerk attitude that thankfully is dying out...

to me anyone who would judge me negatively on my past whilst doing it themselves is not someone i care to get to know anyway...

[Old_Geezer]

Any double standards stem from the differences that arise from men & women. For a man, trying to convince a woman to have sex is a massive task requiring skill and continual honing of persuasive skills over their early adulthood. So if they regularly succeed it is seen to credit their reputation. For a woman it's simple. They just have to select one of the many offers and say, "yes". So if they regularly indulge obviously it's not to any benefit to their reputation as it required next to no effort.