Did you ask your man out?!

[Sade]

Okay, I am so crap at this but wondered how you lot got it together! Are there any ladies amongst you who asked out your man, or did something to 'steer' him into asking you out? I am so hopeless when it comes to flirting, being slightly pushy, doing anything in fact, to get the chap I like to notice me in a way that could be construed as more than friends. Men- tell me, what does a girl have to do to get you to realise that she likes you? I'm not brave enough to just ask him out I'm afraid!! Mostly because we are friends, and I think if he said no, it would makes things very awkward for the future. Help! :)

[firewatch]

ummmm my monster in law 'pushed' us together to get ad out of there house. But 4 years and one sprog later we are still together.

[boxtops]

Don't do anything as formal as asking him "out", just ask him if he'd like to go for a coffee or something. Where do you see him?

[China Doll]

Kind of with current man hostage, it was a sort of joint decision. I've asked out previous boyfriends for a beer or coffee or something, no idea what there is to be afraid of as they can only say 'no' which just means they don't fancy you and not that nobody in the else ever will. It seems a pointless thing to get worked up about but I'm annoyingly pragmatic so it would seem that way to me.

[ummmm]

Did she...ha ha

I've never asked a man out...

[naomi24]

I've never asked a man out either.

[China Doll]

<not that nobody in the else ever will>

^^^ should read 'not that nobody else in the world ever will'

I blame come dine with me.

[MarkRae]

Neither have I...

[Sade]

I've posted on here about him before- he was my lecturer, but I am older than him. I would like to work with him creatively which I hope will happen, but want a bit more than that! He is like a male version of me though, so doubt he would be bold enough to do anything or even realise I like him. I am very out of practice with this sort of thing and not very good at separating work from play.I don't really see him any more now my course is over, so its tricky.

[boxtops]

Have you got his email address? Just drop him a friendly email saying how much you enjoyed the course and that you hope your paths will cross again in future - see what sort of response you get. If he doesn't reply - just leave it.

[lcg]

yup...pushy, determined and infatuated from first sight! you have to say how you feel and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't and you have to brave the disappointment or hurt in order to experience love and joy - i don't think you can have one without the other! 20 years and a lot of love, heartache and work later, we still love each other in the face of significant problems...but it's all worth it. you know when you find a good one - and that's the time to be brave. you are who you are and will find someone who accepts that and loves you just for that. try to be more chilled about it - it's not a race and you may kiss a few frogs before finding a prince. but also learn from your experiences - i think it's far better to be on your own and happy that with someone for the sake of it. be choosy and things will all fall into place. you also have to like yourself first before you can be effective in relationships. as for the key ingredient or 'recipe' for doing this - that's beyond me, but there is someone out there for everyone and you will find yourself that man you dream of if you put the work in. good luck x

[Sqad]

If he fancies you, he will ask YOU out and has he hasn't then you can assume that he doesn't fancy you, so don't waste your time.

[Sade]

As I've only known him 'professionally' I have no idea - he may even be seeing someone. Its hard to find out anything now. lcg76- I am so so fussy! Been single for a very long time, which is fine, and I am happy being single, but this man has kind of struck me as being special.

[Sade]

Sqad- don't think he will have asked me out since I have been his student, and now I'm not, so if he is professional he would not have even thought about me in that way. Besides I think he is as shy as I am!

[China Doll]

Do what boxy said. It's practical and undramatic and will get the job done one way or the other and you won't have to worry about 'losing face' or other such nonsense.

[Prudie]

I tend to agree with sqad on this one, he'd have given you an inkling by now if he was interested in you.

[cathfromsaron]

you can use the old 'spare ticket' ruse! pick something you think he'd like too, and say a friend couldn't come ...

cath x

[JonnyBoy12]

What do you mean 'Got it together'? Some of us here are single and not through choice. Could we not organise a dating agency on here? Would any of you lovely ladies like to ask me out?

[B00]

Yes, I did.

[tenrec]

Johnny boy you sound lovely but I'm already spoken for, sorry!

[JonnyBoy12]

Well, you sound lovely too, but if you have any single lady friends then send them all my way. Can you manage this?