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Did you ask your man out?!
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Okay, I am so crap at this but wondered how you lot got it together! Are there any ladies amongst you who asked out your man, or did something to 'steer' him into asking you out? I am so hopeless when it comes to flirting, being slightly pushy, doing anything in fact, to get the chap I like to notice me in a way that could be construed as more than friends. Men- tell me, what does a girl have to do to get you to realise that she likes you? I'm not brave enough to just ask him out I'm afraid!! Mostly because we are friends, and I think if he said no, it would makes things very awkward for the future. Help! :)
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Kind of with current man hostage, it was a sort of joint decision. I've asked out previous boyfriends for a beer or coffee or something, no idea what there is to be afraid of as they can only say 'no' which just means they don't fancy you and not that nobody in the else ever will. It seems a pointless thing to get worked up about but I'm annoyingly pragmatic so it would seem that way to me.
I've posted on here about him before- he was my lecturer, but I am older than him. I would like to work with him creatively which I hope will happen, but want a bit more than that! He is like a male version of me though, so doubt he would be bold enough to do anything or even realise I like him. I am very out of practice with this sort of thing and not very good at separating work from play.I don't really see him any more now my course is over, so its tricky.
yup...pushy, determined and infatuated from first sight! you have to say how you feel and sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't and you have to brave the disappointment or hurt in order to experience love and joy - i don't think you can have one without the other! 20 years and a lot of love, heartache and work later, we still love each other in the face of significant problems...but it's all worth it. you know when you find a good one - and that's the time to be brave. you are who you are and will find someone who accepts that and loves you just for that. try to be more chilled about it - it's not a race and you may kiss a few frogs before finding a prince. but also learn from your experiences - i think it's far better to be on your own and happy that with someone for the sake of it. be choosy and things will all fall into place. you also have to like yourself first before you can be effective in relationships. as for the key ingredient or 'recipe' for doing this - that's beyond me, but there is someone out there for everyone and you will find yourself that man you dream of if you put the work in. good luck x