Dear Females: Why Am I Not Good Enough?

[drummer0315]

I'm a Sophomore in college and I'm so sick of immature college girls. I've been nothing but a nice, considerate guy my entire life and yet only one girl has ever been attracted to me; we were together for almost 2 years. She goes to the same school as me now, and ever since we broke up, she’s had nothing but success with the opposite sex; EVERY guy wants her and she’s loving it! I, on the other hand, have faced nothing but rejection. It seems girls only want the masculine, attractive guys and apparently that just isn't me. And it’s not like it’s my personality that’s aversive (at least I could change that). Every girl I've been rejected by these past few months has wanted to maintain a friendship with me, and they truly mean it! All five of them have become rather close friends of mine, and they always say, “You’re such a great guy! Whatever woman ends up with you is going to be very lucky.” But I’m starting to not believe that. I'm apparently just not attractive enough (and it’s not like I'm unattractive by any means—I mean, I am the frontman in a frickin’ indie-rock band, I'm just not a Brad Pitt clone with a six-pack). I’m the guy that takes care of women when they’re drunk and puking in the toilet, when they need someone to talk to after the latest attractive *** breaks their heart, yet it’s never me they want to be with. Why am I never good enough?!

[NOX]

You are mate, you're just going for the wrong women. Girls that age are notoriusly shallow and fickle regarding men- but the right one will turn up when you least expect it- don't change anything about yourself, because the most attractive thing about anyone is authenticity:)

[Sqad]

I agree with Nox....you are special and a nice guy...you will find your ideal partner.

P.S Mrs said that....................not me.

[sandyRoe]

Some of us, both men and women, are destined to stay on the shelf.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pIu4SgRswWU

[rockyracoon]

I agree with everything Nox and Sqad has said, I don't think I agree with sandyroe. It's best to stop looking for somebody special then they will tend to find you.

[Mamyalynne]

Drummer ,the girl for you is out there trust me, as others have said try to stop looking and things will take their natural course. Conventional beauty or being very handsome - a certain size etc.. means nothing when it comes to finding someone to love.

[Mamyalynne]

Triggs, can I have the Raspberry Ripple??

[craft1948]

triggs is the man most men aspire to be.............listen to him.

[Frank97]

Not so sure about the stop looking and they will find you thing, I've tried that one and have been happily single for over ten years. So used to it now in fact that I don't find myself wanting anybody at all, I'm quite happy.

[pa___ul3]

I was the same when I was younger, then when I hit 23/24 something struck and I was beating them off with a stick! I'm now 32, short and bald but with a stunning 21 year old girlfriend. Good things come to those who wait!!

[joko]

maybe you are going for the wrong type?...avoid all the cheerleader types and check out other girls who are perhaps wondering the same things as you

[David H]

Sounds like my life story, I can count on the fingers of one hand the women I've liked which have been mutual, although I do get offers they're never from the right ones, and vice versa. I'm probably over twice your age and besides the obvious sub-prime assets you describe, that hasn't stopped most men get at least a few lasting relationships and marriage. I've been wondering the same for decades, and still none the wiser.

[David H]

That's very inspiring Paul, it shows attitude must somehow help, I'm in the same department as you and unfortunately can only say I have had many female friends...

[tenrec]

<<She goes to the same school as me now>>
How old are you? You should be having lots of friends, boys and girls, and the right girl will come along when you least expect it. Good luck.

[venator]

When my daughter was at Oxford, a guy proposed to her, and she had to tell him he was gay - which he hadn't admitted to himself - they're still best of friends...

[ooh-la-la]

i used to be like the girls you just discribed a few years ago, but now i've grown up a little looks mean nothing to me, i'd love to meet a lovely sweet guy that's gonna treat me well. Just give it time sweet p, you will find someone lovely i promise xx

[Teddy_boy]

Maybe they dont like guys who whinge and whine ?