men are from mars......

[sunflower68]

Generally speaking of course, why are men unable to change an empty loo roll, why do they leave dirty socks in balls all over the house and why can they only do one thing at a time? Equally why are many men so keen to mow the lawn? Why do they happily wash up but never change sheets or clean the loo? Why can't they smell when the tumble dryer has well-and-truly tumbled your lovely wash? Why don't they shut the curtains and put the lights on when, clearly, it's dark out there?What is the big deal about the Simpsons, Robot Wars, Scrapheap Challenge and Star Trek whatever? Love you lots though boys. xxxxxxxx 

[smudge]

Hi FP - our youngest daughter used to be the same!

She used to hang so many clothes on the back of her dressing table chair, that if you just brushed past it, it would all fall backwards onto the floor. Saturday mornings were a nightmare trying to get her to tidy her room - so invariably, I used to end up doing it! She now has two children & her own home to look after - but it always looks so neat & tidy! She even wears Marigolds! Bless her!

[happy_face]

My other half is v. similar to Smudge's and  think it's all about finding common ground. If my man moaned about everything but still carried on doing it, then I wouldn't change so maybe that's why they don't. Sit down, talk and be sensible. I said from the begging that I was not in the relationship to do everything and if we shared we'd get more time together to enjoy each others company. I generally do the cooking as I like cooking and then he does the washing etc. So I don't really care what state his socks are in.

But I must say one thing that always puzzles me is that he replaces toilet paper and always puts the seat down. But for some reason he always thinks that the bag in the bin magically re appears after he's emptied it. But I don't mind as I know he helps with many other things.

But why is it that he can't answer me a simple question like "do you want a cuppa" if he's doing something. Are men really that focused that the hearing shuts off ?

Oh and bny the way I am a very good map reader even though I'm a woman. Much better than him any way.

[FP]

happy-face.  My husband never hears me when he is doing something.  He reckons he can't do 2 things at once (ie listen to me whilst carrying on working),  let alone multitask.  He also can't or won't talk whilst driving and finds the radio distracting unless it's turned right down so you can hardly hear it.  Very boring journeys!

[oxeyedaisy]

londondave..its mr oxeyedaisy that leaves cotton wool balls around in this house after he has cleaned his greasy face..its too much trouble to put it in the waste bin..i am tidy and dont do those things as no one is going to clean up except myself..smudge you must have the ideal man i have been with mine 29 years and i am sure he is getting worse as he gets older..if i say anything he says its old age he is 46..so that must be old..and if toilet seats were meant to be left up why did they invent them with a lid for closing??my mother in law was a lazy woman and the father in law used to do nearly everything before he escaped so i guess thats where mr oxeye daisy habits come from..i have a daughter that has inherited mr oxeyedaisy habits her partner works 70 hours a week and spends his one day off cleaning the house from top to bottom he also does the weekly shop and wash..while she is master of the remote control...

[smudge]

happy_face & oxeyedaisy - My husband has always been quite a tidy, helpful, considerate person.

When he was a lad, his Mum was always quite poorly, so he used to help with the shopping, etc. Sadly, she died when he was only 14 years old & from then on, he & his Dad used to share the chores. They always worked really well together, which put him in good stead for the future, bless him.

[Grunty]

I live on my own.  My washing goes straight into the basket, my tools go away as soon as I've finished, although my desk is a little untidy.  I leave the seat up bercause I have nobody to claim that her needs have priority over mine.  I mow the grass, clean the car.  When I was married, she said the one thing she enjoyed was gardening (yes I know how that sounds and I am divorced now), so I left it - and she moaned because I hadn't done it.  When I was a child, my father said to me "Nobody understands women, not even women".

[Litchick]

My dear darling husband (whom I do love TO DEATH) puts his dirty wash ON TOP of the laundry bag...I want to scream, "Go one flick of the wrist further and OPEN THE BIN!"

[Sasha13]

my ex used to step out of his clothes and leave them on the floor in a type of puddle. I started only washing what was in the laundry basket and hanging clothes that were on the floor back in the wardrobe - it used to drive him mad because he'd be pulling things out of the wardrobe which weren't clean when he was getting ready to go out. Caused some pretty major rows! Mind you, I must admit, now I live alone, I'm not the tidiest person in the world!!!

[Little K]

I must admit that I have a great boyfriend who's able to be quite domestic, and can cook really well. I think it's down to the fact that he was married to a girl who used to stay at home slob out and leave him to do everything even though he had a full time job and uni in the evenings.

I think living with someone like that makes you grateful later. I am a bit of a fanatic though,when I get in through the door I have to clean the flat and dishes and put washing on and start supper before I go to the loo and have a shower.

I just can't relax if the place is a mess. OMG and I can't leave it for longer than a day because I end up with tumbleweeds everywhere argh!!!

As for reading maps I am very good and Mister Little K is very bad, he can't drive anywhere unless I am co pilot.LOL yes we pretend it's an aeroplane too!
He calls me his sat nav, pain in the neck because I can never have a nap if we are going somewhere new.

[sunflower68]

Oh deary, poor Mr Sunflower.  I must make it clear that these really are my only gripes with him. We have a great understanding etc and funnily enough they are such minor gripes that I would never even think of mentioning them to him. They have always puzzled me, that's all. I needed to get that off my chest, thanks!