Husband has friends who take drugs

[swansgal]

My husband has friends who take drugs. I knew he was friends with them, they are in their twenties, my husband is 51. He owns a clothes shop and nightclub and these two girls work for him. I know one of the girls is selling the drugs from the shop and in the club, i can't say anything because i found out from a personal facebook account. Ive had a go at him for being friends with them, he says he has nothing to do with what they are doing. He's lending them money as he says he that type of person if someone want something he will help them out. I can't confront him about the selling of drugs, and i don't think he'd believe me anyway. Im really upset by all this and told him to stop hanging around with them, but all he says is im not doing nothing wrong.

[ummmm]

I know loads of people who take drugs. I even know people who sell them.

[bednobs]

well either you tell him what you know, or just shut up

[bednobs]

and TBH you also probably have friends who take drugs, you just don't know about it

[ummmm]

What type of drugs?

[shoota]

If you have information about the commission of crime you should be talking to the Police.

[rowanwitch]

if you have evidence they are dealling shop them anonymously on crimestoppers and hope and pray he's not involved

[ummmm]

And risk dropping her husband in it without even talking to him first?

[cazzz1975]

I reported a guy for selling drugs to school kids outside the school gate to the police, he was there everyday at the same time, the police did nothing about it..

[Ankou]

if he is allowing premises he occupies or manages to be used for the consumption, supply or production of any controlled drug then he most certainly is doing somehting wrong.

[NOX]

Just mind your own business, everyone including you will know someone who takes drugs but what I can't get over is why are you snooping on your husband in the first place? Just forget it.

[smart1]

Yes ummmm - without talking to him first. He could be well aware of what is going on, but happily going along with it 'without talking to her first'. I speak from experience.

[Philtaz]

Point out to him that if it all goes pear shaped he may well be implicated and possibly perceived by the Police to be 'concerned in the supply of a controlled substance'.

[sandyRoe]

It would probably be best to say nothing.

[mccfluff]

why are you snooping on him? do you nopt trust him in which case woudl it not be better to address these issues with him and perhaps bring it up afterward.

[cazzz1975]

I would turn a blind eye, not that I agree with whats going on, I just feel that it would cause a lot of grief all round.

[Meg888]

In what way is he 'hanging' with them? You said the girls work for him, but does he socialise with them other than that? I'm sure as a nightclub owner, he knows the risks should the police get wind that there are drugs being dealt in house, maybe it's worth pointing out what he has to lose, should they get caught. Is having some kind of mid life crisis perhaps?

[swansgal]

Im not snooping on him. My daughter has access to personal facebook account at the shop. Obviously this girl didn't delete the conversation. I do probably have friends who take drugs but don't know about it. I don't know if he knows about them selling them. Just don't want him to get in the sh!t for them. The thing that pi$$es me off that he gives them money, ive tried telling him to stop but he seems to think if i don't like it i can lump it. These girls walk around the club as if they own it, getting free drinks and entry and off their faces. Everytime i confront him its always don't be stupid that im always thinking the worse. Don't know what drugs they are they were all down in code.

[mccfluff]

so there should be no issue in showing him the conversation and tell him if he doesn;t do something to stop it then you'll contact the police


or leave it

[ummmm]

So how does your daughter know if they are code?

And if someone doesn't delete their convo then you no reason not to confront him.

[swansgal]

Meg888. The other week he told me he was going out with a male friend for a meal and i found out it was with one of the girls. He thinks its ok for me to stay in with our daughters while he's off out. Iv'e met one of them and she just looked straight through me, seeing she took an instant dislike to me before we even spoke. He said the next time i take her out, i will tell you and i told him he must be bloody joking. He told me i can't have it all ways.