Sad

[evedawn]

For my bday (a month ago) my hub booked us a tea at the ritz followed by theatre. As we live a way outside London I decided to book us a hotel. As we are on a budget a booked a really cheap hotel near Victoria. To cut a v long story short when we booked in tonight my hub hated it and spent all night being so horrid and sarcastic (my choice of hotel apparently ruined the weekend) . We had a row and he has left to
Go the 1.5 hr back home leaving me here. I feel like crying ! All alone (but safe) and he won't return my calls. He just texted to say I must enjoy (alone) theatre and ritz tomo as I have ruined my own birthday! If Feel sooooooo sad! I coulda gone with him when he stormed out hotel but
Wanted to
Stand my ground ... But it feels horrible! He won't answe my calls etc

[slinky.kate]

did you take your laptop with you????

[nungate]

My heart goes out to you. You haven't spoiled your birthday treat he has.
You stay where you are, go out and have tea at the Ritz and enjoy your trip to the theatre and stand your ground.

[Mamyalynne]

Based on the facts given, he has been unreasonable - he knows you are on a budget and the Hotel was simply a stopover to a nice day tomorrow - doll yourself up, go and enjoy it.

[Jan1957]

Tell him he is a dick and get very drunk.

[evedawn]

Nah ... On my iPhone

[vodkancoke]

He has been totally unreasonable. Go out tomorrow and enjoy yourself. He is the one missing out.

[evedawn]

Yeah ... Everything ur guys say makes sense but I still can't help being so sad (I'm kinda teary now) 14 years marriage and he's a good guy just tired of him acting up (tantrum) every time he don't like something. CIA he robot return my calls mind working overtime (car crash thoughts etc) ... I coulda given in and gone home but I always give in and I just don't want to anymore. But I feel so bl**dy sad / bad etc

[evedawn]

Scuse typos .... Big fingers ... Small iPhone ... :) hope you can make sense of previous post

[evedawn]

Yeah I know I won't enjoy it tomorrow. But if I go home (tomo only cos where i live the last train out of London is 10:20pm) ... If I go gone tomo AM I will never hear the end of how I wasted his money by not going to the show. Doomed if I go , doomed if I don't ... ( sad ... Tonight I was hoping for lusty (lol) fun followed by cultural day tomo .., now awake wondering if he'll get home safe etc

[jno]

for pete's sake - he walks out on his wife because he doesn't like a hotel room? And he won't even answer your calls?

That's not the way grown-ups behave. Is there anything else going on between you?

[evedawn]

Nah jno ... Everything's been fine, marriage gd (really) its just the first
Time ever that I didn't give in
To his tantrum
And didn't follow when he threatened.

[evedawn]

Well head wreck ... It gets
Better... The theatre ticket was originally booked for another date but ... He cancelled that date as .... It was a (his)friends bday party! He is generally a kind man.... Just the littlest (like hotel) things gd makes a huge deal of and just go's on And on. I think this is the first time I've stood my ground. Instead if making me feel empowered tho I feel guilty/ sad/ anxious ... And very alone

[jno]

well, that's something. All the same, I wonder what his reason was for not wanting to be with you. Was he missing something on the telly? Does he get nervous when away from home? Does he really need to be in the Four Seasons before he can abide your company? And why the sarky texts?

Perhaps you didn't have that "for richer, for poorer" thing in your wedding service.

Anyway, it's your birthday, have tea, enjoy the theatre, and don't spoil the time by wondering why he's behaving like a jerk. Sort it out when you get back, not before.