Dating younger men.....

[-KSA-]

Long story short, unhappy in my marriage, decided to change my life. Left husband, lost 4 stone, realising dream of working in music industry, made loads of new friends, life is exciting and I'm in a really good place. I haven't been looking for a new man but seem to be getting a lot of attention. My problem is this, I'm in my early 50's, although I'm told I seem much younger both in looks and my outlook on life. Most of the men interested in me are younger than I am and although I have no plans to be a Cougar I don't lie about my age either. I'm like a classic car, I look pretty good, but on close inspection you a see the bodywork's a bit knackered and, although there's few miles on the clock, the engine has been well maintained and is still in perfect working order. Trouble is not feeling very confident about getting back in to dating in this age of 'perfect women'. Any advice?

[Prudie]

Some of your answer also describes me! Firstly forget the perfect women thing - they may be about in the celebrity world but look on the high street and they don't exist! I've had 2 long-term partners considerably younger than me. The first smashed my self-esteem as he always made me feel old and after 10 years he finally left (which he was always going to do). My current partner though has been with me 12 years and the age-gap makes no difference at all. In other words it's pot-luck! Just be yourself and get out there but don't lose your heart too easily!

[Glass_half_full]

I've recently married someone 14 years younger than me. As long as you're both happy, just go with the flow. Yes, the age gap occasionally causes problems but all relationships have problems. I've also realised that age gap relationships where the woman is older are becoming increasingly common, probably because older women are looking after themselves well and tend to have a younger outlook on life than their male counterparts. As the previous poster said, in the real world there are no "perfect" women - or men, for that matter! My advice to you is to relax and enjoy it.

[Nini74]

well - it looks as though you have enough self-esteem and confidence in yourself, plus you have guts and determination - so do now what you've done in the past - grab the bull by the horns and go for it!

if you're getting lots of attention, then the ball is in your court - you get to choose who, when, where and how - go for it lady! (and if they don't like what they find when they check under the bonnet, then they don't deserve the thrill of driving a classic car!).

[boxtops]

Go for it - my OH is several years younger than I am, and it seems to be working very well - I'd recommend it!

[Psybbo]

Go for it, enjoy

[Canary42]

You're asking us for advice !

You seem to have got your life sorted out better than most, carry on as you are. And forget the "perfect women" thing - most men shun them as ballbreakers (in spite of drooling over the image).

Good luck !

[paulaCC]

mine is 10 yrs younger than me but it has it risks

[tenrec]

There are loads of widows round here. So get yourself a younger man because otherwise you may be a widow too!

[excelsior-1]

hello KSA

a relationship will work - or not for reasons other than age.
if the right man is there for you, then age is not an issue.
you sound to me like you are very confident about yourself anyway, and therefore have nothing to be cautious about.

relish in the attention you are getting - and hope that one of them will initiate a reciprocal feeling from you.

good luck.

[Jeza]

Gonna go against the flow here. IMO the only reason young men go for older women is money. I'm not speaking of anyone in particular, how any times have you read of older women being ripped off by younger men.

[boxtops]

Jeza, sorry but that's a very cynical view - but yes, there are high-profile stories where older women are taken in by wily young men and fall for the flattery. That doesn't sound like KSA's situation at all, and it certainly isn't mine.

[gness]

Well it`s not money in my case Jeza.........that`s for sure. :-)

[Prudie]

And Bernie Ecclestone has just married a girl 40 years younger than him. That works both ways.

[DTCwordfan]

I have never dated a younger man, so no comment.

I have been dated by an older woman, starting when I was a teenager and it's rather attractive should I say.......

I agree with the comments that it isn't age exactly.....

Go ahead and enjoy it, KSA, gggggggggggrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr.

[DTCwordfan]

(and it is not necessarily for money.......Mrs Robinson)

[vodkancoke]

My Dad is 8 years younger than my Mum. 36 years married and they are still mad about each other. He keeps my Mum young and they have a great relationship. Go for it and enjoy it. Forget your hang-ups and relax.

[vodkancoke]

Oops almost 38 years married. I have Sunday-Brain! lol

[humbersloop]

Welcome to AB ksa.

in my experience, go for hard to get, works wonders

http://www.google.co....ved=0CCQQ9QEwAQ&dur=1

[Jeza]

I guess I am a cynic boxy. Mic has looked after our neighbours for years. Fetching and carrying, but now ignored. That is for another thread on another day.

[humbersloop]

Hope all's well with you and mic ((jeza)), regards.